RAD: The Cyclist in These Foolish Things

  • May 31, 2021, 10:22 p.m.
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Name: The Cyclist

Introduction Platform: Match. We’d actually matched 122 days ago and finally met today!

Age: 56

Relationship Status: Divorced, 2 daughters (20 and 21, lived with him during pandemic and now both live at their respective universities…and part time with him during summer break)

Job: Consultant for industrial products industry

Lives: In the part of town where I am moving!!

Length of Date: 1.5 hours

We Did: After several cancellations and new plans, we were supposed to meet for coffee and fancy cafe in fancy hotel, but it ended up being completely crowded with some kind of cray 2-hour wait, so we went to the Starbucks Reserve a couple of blocks away.

He Looked: So nice. So very nice. He wore great-fitting dark denim jeans, a tee of some sort under an Italian cycling jacket (how do I know it was Italian? It had a Segafredo logo embroidered on it, haha!), stylish modern loafers, which he pointed out were his favorite shoes but needed to take them in for repairs because he loves them so much, In other words, they were falling apart - but it was so endearing to me because that’s exactly how my favorite boots are - they still look good in that well-worn way.

I Looked: It was raining, but I wanted to put my best foot forward, what with being in the middle of chemo treatment and all. I wanted to make a great first impression. Luckily, I’d gotten a nice haircut on Saturday. I did daytime casual makeup and wore a cute dress made casual with a denim jacket. The dress sort of exposes my port scar, so I was hoping he wouldn’t say anything about it and he didn’t.

Convo: Everything BUT cancer, thankfully! I was thrilled that there was nothing that triggered having to mention anything about what’s going on with me from a health perspective. We had plenty to talk about just as a getting-to-know-you situation. Just like the before times. And I loved it so much.

High Point: He kept pointing out all of the things we have in common - background, moving around a lot, midwestern roots, global travel, etc, etc. Also, he said a few times that he wanted to see me again, and that made me feel really good and hopeful. One more thing: I belly laughed more than once,

Low Point: Didn’t really have a low point. Nothing he said was disappointing. The only sucky part about the date was the rain, but even that moved us a little closer together, inside and warm.

How It Ended: He ended it pretty abruptly at the hour and a half mark. I truly think he wanted to leave me wanting more, and it worked. We walked together to the underground parking lot and hugged goodbye. He told me again that he wanted to see me again soon and asked if I like sushi. I told him that I love sushi and he was like, good - I know a great spot! And I was happy but then remembered that I can’t eat raw fish during chemo treatment (but didn’t say that to him). Just smiled and waved goodbye.

Chances Are: Very good chances. He’s already asked me out for Friday evening. If all goes as planned this week with treatment, I’ll be getting my pump disconnected on Friday afternoon. I will likely not feel great, but I shouldn’t feel too, too bad. Fingers crossed so hard! Oh, and he did ask me to go to a sushi place but I told him that I was on “some medication” that prevents me from eating raw food and that I could go but would have to eat cooked food. He immediately suggested a different restaurant and said, “I just want to see you.”

Date Rating: A+++. He’s 100% my type, attractive, active, funny and ACCOMMODATING! Yay!

simple mind May 31, 2021


plushcreep May 31, 2021

Well, well...this is great!

Florentine May 31, 2021

Woot, yay for a good first date!

The Thirsty Oriental May 31, 2021

That's awesome!

colder June 01, 2021


Gangleri June 01, 2021

Very nice. Good luck.

a girl thinking June 01, 2021

uh oh :)

Elaine Benes June 01, 2021

Wow awesome!

Marg June 01, 2021

Ooo this sounds very promising!

Dana by Night June 01, 2021 (edited June 01, 2021)



echopod June 01, 2021

Sounds like a good one!

IpsoFacto June 01, 2021

Firstly, I am so happy that you had a wonderful time and a great connection. If anyone deserves it right now it’s you my darling. Secondly, I am a very nitpicky detail oriented person. Don’t hate me for that... but, when he mentioned having his shoes repaired my radar went off and I said to myself, “OK he’s got the Italian leather jacket and I’m sure the shoes are very expensive or he’d be like so many other Americans and just throw them out and get new ones. John has two pairs of Bally loafers that he has been wearing off and on for forty years. They’ve both been resoled.

Ginger Snap IpsoFacto ⋅ June 01, 2021

YES! I love a good resole-ing! He was telling me about his cobbler and I told him I needed to go to his person because I'm sure I've been going to the most expensive place in town to have my boots repaired! Love this!

Athena June 01, 2021


Firebabe June 01, 2021

Woot! Everything's comin' up Ginger Snap! 😀

WeAreStarStuff June 01, 2021


Fred June 01, 2021

This is so very promising!!!

Ginger Snap Fred ⋅ June 01, 2021

I sure hope so. I could use a good guy right about now.

Complicated Disaster June 01, 2021

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! How exciting! Fingers crossed! 🥰🥰 Xx

Jinn June 02, 2021

The universe is sending you someone good ! :-)

kansasgirl June 02, 2021

What a great way to start your summer!

WhatDreamsMayCome June 04, 2021

Wishing you the best!

pandora June 05, 2021

WOW!!! I like the sound of this!!

bobbi01 June 07, 2021

Finally, The Unicorn! Reading on ....

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