Alistair and I had a lot of good discussions today as I was spending most of my day stressing out about how exactly I was going to get to England. I've known for a very long time that I wanted to go to England or somewhere in Europe to study for Graduate school. Then, we discovered that school works different in Europe in the fact that there was no difference between Undergraduate and Graduate schools and that it would take a total of 5 years to become a Veterinarian in the UK. So, we've been planning on me doing really good this year in school and get accepted into one of the seven Veterinary schools in the UK or more realistically into a smaller school in order to get good A levels in Biology/Chemistry and then transfer to one of the bigger Universities.
However, I did some research on Student Visas and it will be virtually impossible for me to be able to do it. Essentially, they want you to be able to completely pay for your first year of college before they even accept you. $9,000 isn't a lot and I'm sure with financial aid and whatever money I have saved up in my savings for college and I would be able to pay for the first year but with not being able to work more than 20 hours a week (with a high possibility of not being able to work at all) there would be no way I could pay for school and keep my visa current.
We sat down and we talked about it and we've decided on waiting an extra year. We were originally going to move into together (either me move there or he move here) in the summer of 2015. Now, the plan is for me to stay at CCC (and even possibly finish my Associates Degree) for the next two years, move into the Dormitories next year and I would fly out to the UK and stay during the Summer and Winter breaks during those two years. This gives him time to work full time and save up money, find a permanent place to live and stay with his family. He would then propose during one of my trips, we would apply for a Fiance Visa, get married and then we would be home free to live our lives.
The only thing that changes with this plan is that I won't immediately be able to study in the UK as you can only study on a Fiance Visa if your course lasts less than 6 months. Which would mean that I would have to forgo a year of school in order to get married. This really isn't a bad thing as Veterinary Courses only take 3-5 years in the UK so I'm already saving time and a year off to plan the wedding, actually get married, have a honeymoon, come back, get settled into a new life and find a kennel/clinic to work in for several months for a better shot at the program I want to be excepted in actually works out quite nice.
I wanted so badly to come up with a reason, any reason, to think that this plan was stupid and we should find another way but as much as it hurt to think about Alistair was completely right. Two years seems like an eternity but having us both be financially stable with less stress and starting out our lives together right would make the relationship last much longer. And if we can't make it through two years of this then we weren't going to make it anyway. This would either break us or make us so much stronger. He was telling me about an Aunt and Uncle of his that met through a dating agency, and sent hand written letters to each other for a couple of years before they got together and got married. And I would be with him for about 6 months continuously across the holidays.
I wonder if two years, a majority of it being apart, would be long enough to get married. Would we know each other enough. But in all honesty, we spend around 12-16 hours a day together right now which is more than we would if we had met in town. And we would have gotten all of the experiences we would need to know in order to get married. We would have known each other for 2 years, lived with each other for 6 months or more of it and been sexually active with one another. If we could make it through this then there would be no doubt in any ones mind that we belong together.
He's been really nesting and sentimental the last few days. Saying that one day he's going to make me his wife and that he will never break up with me because he knows what he wants and it's to be with me. And I want to believe him, because he's older and has been through his young and frivolous years and he knows that he wants in a partner. But it is impossible to tell the future and he can't make a promise like that realistically. But I will believe it for as long as it is true.
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