So, as previously stated (if not here than other wheres) Victoria fairly well put a definition to our relationship. “You are a good friend that I want to help. And a friend I’m interested to have sex with”. I know the rules. That means FRIENDSHIP with physical and sexual affection. And it stops there. But that being said? This woman has already shown me the kind of things I need to downright demand or expect from a girlfriend/wife if I should ever have one.
She randomly texted me “Don’t forget to soak this weekend! I want to make sure you’re taking time for self-care!”
Seriously?! And then… I haven’t shared this but it is something I take notice of and appreciate. Every few days we hang out, Victoria makes it a point to ask about my pain… because she wants to make sure I’m not pushing myself into a worse pain situation just to “make sure I’m saying yes to hanging out.”
Like… from Thompson actively yelling at me that I wanted to nap instead of lift weights on a camping trip to Nancy’s YEARS of interrupting my sleep for any need or desire of hers that she wanted me to take care of...... this is a much better way of dealing with a friend, colleague, loved one with a chronic pain condition.
So… yeah. Victoria and I are good friends. And she is attracted to me sexually (something I still have a hard time believing… talk about your 3 getting a 7!). But we aren’t more than that. We’ll never have a love affair. But she has already shown me that I should expect concern, care, affection… physically and emotionally.
Good lessons. Just… hope I get to put them into practice some time.