Scream Shout in Book Six: Trying to Hold On 2019
- Nov. 1, 2019, 7:34 p.m.
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Well, in a new record we got Wife to “shouting at the absolute top of her lungs in rage” within 38 minutes of MBFITWW arriving.
Yesterday, she did not want to help me cook and said, “Let’s save this for tomorrow.” Awesome. More time to clean. Basement was already done completely, 3 Season room finished, so vacuuming and laundry! Wife said she’d do laundry on Friday so… looking good!!
Except… not? I got home, Wife was obsessing over homework again, so I took Nala for a walk. When I got home, Wife was (finally) cleaning the only room I specifically asked her to clean. I took a shower. MBFITWW arrived. Wife had finished cleaning. Time to cook. I was cooking and asked for her help. Not to TAKE OVER…for her help! She got really frustrated and angry with me. I stood my ground. Seriously… you said we would do this today… it is today… let’s do this! So she reluctantly said okay, sprinkled a few spices onto what I was cooking and started to walk away. The food was almost entirely cooked, I just needed her help to get ONE ingredient. I had to keep the recipe constantly moving or it would settle… NEEDED her help. I ask her to get Cottage Cheese out of the fridge. She instead grabs a drink for herself and shuts the fridge. So, yeah. I e press frustration with that. I asked her for something, she got something FOR HERSELF and DID NOT GET WHAT I ASKED HER and then shut the fridge. So then she says “I’m feeling very overwhelmed right now!” Then tries to correct me on something about the recipe. So I go over to the recipe to check and she SCREAMS AT THE TOP OF HER LUNGS “It isn’t in the recipe!!” Then she storms off as her eyes well up with tears.
So… while doing 2 college classes… sweeping the kitchen, doing dishes, doing laundry, helping out with the dog, and cleaning 1 room is “far too overwhelming”. As opposed to play practice, full time job, preparing Jury Trials, taking care of most of the dog’s needs, and cleaning the Basement, Both Bathrooms, vacuuming the entire house, doing most of the cooking, and cleaning large parts of the house otherwise unmentioned… yeah. That is no big deal!
So… I think if we are going to stay together AT ALL…she needs to figure out how to just… handle adult life! Fuck!
Always Laughing ⋅ November 01, 2019
I could see if the ingredient you needed was at the store and she had to run there as fast as possible in fear of the recipe being ruined that it would be overwhelming, but the fact that she was in the fridge and all she had to do was grab the cottage cheese at the same time as getting her drink I just don't get that reaction unless she let's all her emotions bottle up until one small thing makes her snap. She definitely needs assistance on adulting 101. If she would happen to have some kind of behavioral health issue she would benefit greatly with continued therapy that focuses on adulting.
Foofah ⋅ November 01, 2019
I feel bad if I don't take care of the house before Joe gets home in the evening. I mostly handle all of the cooking but he has been making breakfast for us lately. I just feel like since he's punching the time clock and providing for us financially, it's the least I could do. I wish your wife felt the same way and could help you carry the load. It's hard carrying it by yourself.
Purple Dawn ⋅ November 02, 2019
Was your friend there when she had her meltdown? I didn't quite understand that part.
Park Row Fallout Purple Dawn ⋅ November 02, 2019
He was in the living room
Purple Dawn Park Row Fallout ⋅ November 02, 2019
oh shit
Amelie's Twin Purple Dawn ⋅ November 02, 2019
What's his perspective? Often times friends have observations that either we can't, or don't want to, see.
Chartreuse ⋅ November 07, 2019
I struggle with this with my two older sisters. In their eyes, their lives are incredibly busy and stressful and they have absolutely no time or money for anything because they each have a job and one child, and we're all "busy and stressed". No. You don't know what it means to actually be away from your house working and in school for 16-18 hours of the day, or to not see your significant other for 2-3 days at a time because they're at the hospital, or to pay out of pocket thousands of dollars a semester for your education (or to even work and have a full-time semester at the same time, for that matter), or to have a single income for two people that's technically in the negative financially because one of you has to take out half a million dollars for school expenses alone, and the other one of you is paying for living expenses and your own education. Everyone thinks their own lives are so hard, it can always be harder. Parenting your one kid isn't hard, your 8-hour work day isn't hard, your one night class isn't hard.
Sorry for the rant, I obviously related deeply to this lol.