forgiven in Torridaussity Two

  • Feb. 19, 2014, 8:54 a.m.
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My last entry was about a friend of mine that I have been friends with for 10 years, we have an odd friendship as a few years after we became friends he enlisted in the army and I have only seen him once in person since then. We share random parts of our lives with one another, but I know he would be there for me if I needed him. The other night he was drunk and crossed a line. I in a way was okay with it because I have always liked him as more than a friend, but he always had a girl friend and then he was gone. He has had 4 tours in the middle east and is being sent on his next one in a few weeks. He was drunk texting me and what he was saying was very flirtatious and made me feel as if he was testing the waters to see how I would react. I flirted back and then all of a sudden he just stopped talking to me and didn't for 2 days. I felt as if he did what every other man recently has they want to see how "naughty" I can be and then if I don't react the way they want they're done. I had just got done telling him how tired of that I am and then he pulled this stunt. I was hurt, confused, angry, and upset. I however, didn't want to lose a friend because of drunken stupidness. I reached out to him once in case he was embarrassed by some of what he had texted. He didn't text back, but the other night on FB he apologized for what he did. I have forgiven him, I know we all do things when we are drunk that can be stupid. Before all this happened I was sending him a small gift to have before he gets shipped out so that is going in the mail today. I am glad we got all this cleared up before he gets sent over seas. You never know what can happen and I didn't want that to be the way it ended if the worse possible thing happened. I am doing a study through church called the one month to live challenge and it focuses on strengthening your faith as well as making you see what's truly important in your life and how you should live each day as if you know in 30 days your time on Earth will be done. I am telling people what I want them to know and he was on my list, that's why I was planning on sending the letter and gift. I told him how proud of him I am because he was really not doing much with his life and then he enlisted in the army and turned his life around. Anyway I feel much better that we are okay, am I disappointed that he was just being stupid and not looking to see if we could be more than friends, a little, but I would rather have him in my life as a friend than not at all.


artists*heart February 19, 2014

You are a much better person than I am. I am a champion grudge holder.

Always Laughing artists*heart ⋅ February 19, 2014

I think what has helped me with that is the faith challenge I am doing called one month to live and it challenges you to live each day as if you know you only have one month left. I am actively trying to do that and I know I would want to have our friendship in tact if I died in one month or if he would be killed in action. It makes it a lot easier to forgive when you view life like that.

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