I wish I knew what the heck I was doing in here. I'm still so confused when I'm trying to read bookmarks. I'd LIKE to read them in the correct order and am trying to, but it gets a little mixed up... not as intuitive as OD... but I'll manage.
My friend's memorial luncheon was yesterday. There was no service... just cremation and a luncheon. Was a little chaotic and odd and his wife was... well... I needed a score card to keep up. My husband was/is one of his oldest friends so she had asked him to stand by their son while he made a speech he had written. The son is only 9 years old so it was a pretty elementary speech. It was quite obvious it hasn't all sunk it yet and the speech was 90% performance while he had everybody's attention and sort of playing with the microphone. My husband said a few words but our friend's wife said she didn't want anybody else to speak because she didn't want her sister-in-law or her sister-in-law's husband to talk because they would go on and on and also there was bad blood or something. Nevertheless, someone else yelled out, does anybody else have something to say, and the floor opened up. It was sort of a mess, but not really. And, of course, the guy's sister spoke and it was actually brief. Her husband didn't speak at all. None of it was awkward or long winded, it was fine. And not too many people spoke.
Then later, the wife took me to the side and complained that so-and-so was inviting another so-and-so to my husband's barbeque in the summer and she wished he wouldn't because they didn't want him there since blah blah blah hurt their feelings. My husband has been throwing these huge bbqs every Memorial Day weekend and Labor Day weekend for over 30 years. He invites everybody he's ever known I think and everybody those people have ever known. He gets permits and has a huge spot in the woods. These bbqs are huge with about 100 or so folks each time so there really are no people who are barred from coming.
So, anyway, it got very weird because there seem to be a variety of people with whom our friend's wife has "bad blood." As a matter of fact, we found out later from our son that our pal's family discovered he had passed by reading Facebook! The whole thing was just so bizarre.
So anyway, that was that, and the guy is at rest now with his brother. We'll do what we can to help out with his wife and son. It's just weird. I had no idea things were like that with her but I only had a peripheral relationship with her. We were much closer to the guy but it was more like an activity relationship, not a heart to heart relationship. We would do things, not share feelings and stuff.
Well.. whatever.
I just am leery of people who shut others out like that. That's all.
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