Dating Apps in Self-Improvement, 2018

I had to check my last entry to see where I left off.

Things at the courthouse went smoothly. I have a hearing June 12th for the finalization of the divorce. Before then, I have to meet with a court facilitator to make sure everything is in order. I hope things are in order. My meeting with the court facilitator is April 9th. If anything is not in order, than I guess I have two months to figure shit out. Feels good to know things are moving along.

I also started my foray into the world of dating apps. So fun! Half sarcastic/half dead serious. The one I’m using now is Bumble. If you’re not familiar with the app, here is a brief rundown: You browse through peoples’ profiles and pics. Swipe left for not interested, right for interested. If two people both swipe right on each other, a “match” is made. Once a “match” is made, the woman has 24 hours to initiate the conversation. Men cannot initiate the conversation and have no idea who has matched up with them, until the woman has started the conversation. If the woman does not start a conversation within 24 hours of the match, the match goes away. NOW women matching up with other women… either one can initiate the conversation.

I have my settings set so that I’m interested in both. Note: I’m having WAY more matches with men than women :( I’ve had a few conversations with two women so far, and I feel like its a completely foreign concept to me, even thought that’s what I want. Men…I have one who is chatting with me a few times a day. I had another one who set up a date with me to go to the Cheesecake Factory Saturday night. He has since “unmatched” himself from me. When you “unmatch” yourself, the conversation disappears and you can no longer talk to that person. I wonder if he got nervous or was never into the idea in the first place. Either way, nothing really lost.

I myself had to unmatch from someone basically offering a one-night stand. Maybe it was a police officer posing as an internet predator. Either way, unmatched and nothing lost.

It is fun to see when I swipe right on someone who I consider to be “above and beyond my pay grade”, that its a match (meaning they also swiped right on me before I swiped right on them). I had a match with a surgeon and a physical therapist (fix me!) but the conversation didn’t go anywhere. Maybe they swipe right on everyone. Still fun, and I’m taking the confidence boost, real or not.

I give myself a pat on the back for at least trying and having the gumption to start the conversation. I mean this is a great time filler while at work and those lonely weekday nights. Free entertainment with a small hope factor thrown in.

I am terrified of coming across my soon-to-be ex-husband. Or him coming across me. We met on Plenty of Fish, so I have not created a new profile there, because he’s a creature of habit, and I’m betting that’s the first place he goes back to. I don’t think he’s ever heard of Bumble.

Anyway, elbow is feeling better. We have a scrimmage on Saturday with two local-ish teams. They are coming to us, so we don’t have to travel. Everyone on our team is so broken right now. Our coaches don’t get it. The week before a scrimmage is not the time to do hardcore tackling drills. One of our stars went down on Tuesday with what looked to be like the same leg injury I had. Quad sprain/contusion. She could barely stand. Its absolutely unreal the amount (or lack thereof) healthy players we currently have. Totally still leaning towards this being my last year with the team.

Last updated March 22, 2018