How Am I Suppose to Answer? in meh...
- June 30, 2016, 10:51 a.m.
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lol
I received a call at work from a former co-worker. One of my security boos. He’s been gone for about a year or so. When he left his girlfriend was pregnant he had high hopes about his future earning potential and being a police officer. He informed me that he applied for a third shift position in security. Looking to come back. We had a great conversation. His baby girl is a year old and apparently twerking. LOL
Great conversation. That was my boy.
So. He asked me about my love life. I told him it sucked. Then he said I was giving my boyfriend a hard time. I told him I don’t have one. He said, “Whaaat?” like he was shocked about that then asked why. I said, I don’t know! Nobody likes me. He said come on now. You’re alright.
I mean that’s a question I’ve been wondering how to answer for some time now because I get that question a lot. My answers vary:
No one likes me.
I’m too fat for some people that are stuck on a gimmick of their ideal woman.
They just want to hook up or cheat with me and not really be with me.
I’m too old to be creeping and being with someone else’s guy.
I’m not running around all hot and bothered like I just HAVE to be with someone because when you do, you end up in some bullshit. And I don’t have the patience for is bullshit.
I don’t really put myself out there and when I do I’m supposed to just take what I can get? I don’t think so.
So that’s it today.
It rained a little.
I’m hungry.
Kindest regards,
Sister
Deleted user ⋅ June 30, 2016
did you check it out?
Sister Deleted user ⋅ June 30, 2016
I did...
Deleted user Sister ⋅ June 30, 2016
So, weird isn't it.
Comfortably Numb ⋅ June 30, 2016
I think most people our age would prefer to be single but dating/ in a relationship. At least that's I'm seeing. We've all had our fill of being married (sometimes multiple times), and we're just looking for non-suffocating companionship that lets us keep our independence. Maybe in our 70s we might think about "dying alone" and get hitched again, but from the last generation or so til now, most folks are thinking like you do. It'd be nice to have someone but not 24/7.
Sister Comfortably Numb ⋅ June 30, 2016
You may be on to something here. I've never been married, but I've often said that I'd settle to be a long term girlfriend at this point. I don't care anymore. lol I don't have to live with anyone because I'm junky and I apparently am a paper hoarder because I think every thing is either sentimental or may be important at sometime. lol
Comfortably Numb Sister ⋅ June 30, 2016
Samey same.
If I ever get free of B, I'm all about that girlfriend status, and that's even despite being in love with someone. When I picture a future with J, it's always in separate living spaces and seeing each other regularly. He hates dogs, and I'm not giving up my pitbull, I snore, so separate sleeping arrangements, he smokes (cigarettes) and that's gross. So..separate spaces. Sounds delightful actually, not to have to answer to someone all the time.
Sister Comfortably Numb ⋅ June 30, 2016
Yes, Yes!
Gilraent ⋅ June 30, 2016
I'm right there with Comfortably numb.
And don't put yourself down like you do. I may not see what you look like, but from what I read here, you are beautiful.
Sister Gilraent ⋅ June 30, 2016
I'm alright. LOL
I get my fair share of attention but it mostly wants to culminate in a hook up or long term side chick both of which I've done and I'm over all that.
Gilraent Sister ⋅ June 30, 2016
lol well I can't blame for that. If I was back on the market I'd just get a bunch of dogs and call it done. lol
Sister Gilraent ⋅ June 30, 2016
I would get a dog, but I do not want to take care of anything else. lol