*”I hate those people who love to tell you money is the root of all that kills. They have never been poor they have never had the joy of a welfare Christmas.” *
Moving sucks. The amount of people who’ve never had to do it or just hire movers amazes me. Even though my back is still messed up, I spent the weekend moving everything. Seth helped as well, but I could tell he was exhausted towards the end. Ashely and her sister helped too, but both are rather weak, compared to me. Even in my weakened state I can just … do more than them. I never thought about the fact I’m so much stronger. One time our couch leg broke, I had it set up with some books to keep it “stable” until I could fix it, or buy a new one I don’t remember, Ashley was laying on the couch with our girlfriend at the time, and I noticed it had fallen off the books as I walked by. I picked up the couch with both of them laying on it. Straightened the books and set it back down. Moved on with what I was doing and both of them just stared at me.
“What? Something wrong?”
You just lifted the whole couch with both of us on it!
“Yeah? So what you’re both like what… 100 lbs? 150 at most?”
But the couch is heavy, I can’t even lift it when no one is on it!
I digress.
Started at 9 am, moved until i returned the uhaul at 3ish. Then went back to the old place and loaded up my car again. Made 2 more trips just gathering smaller stuff, still not finished, but the ‘move’ is done. All the rest is just cleaning and what not. We’ve got till the 12th so I’m not in a rush.
Of course I started at the end and I’m going to rush back to the beginning.
Been a stressful month, trying to find a place to live, applications sent in, spent close to 400 in applications fees. Fighting with places because when they say something is ‘available to rent’ that doesn’t mean you can move into it. “Yes it’s available now. It’ll be ready for move in on July ___ or August ___.” Okay my lease ends on June 12th. I told you that at the beginning of this conversation. “Yes I know but, ” blah blah blah
Worse was the AI bots, who were just as bad offering me a place that will be ready in June of 2028. Uh.. what?
Ashley and I argued a lot over places, she wanted this or that, but failed to mention it to me, she left it all to me, I found 10 places to look at, she hated all of them for this reason or that.
Then we got rejected from 2 places due to her credit, which was a shock to both of us since we’d been approved through 3 other places days before the rejections.
Most of the rejections are due to overdue bills from back when I was hurt and we couldn’t afford to pay them and you know pay rent and etc. So we’ve got caught up on those but now are short on money.
I let seth know that if we can’t find a place we would have to cancel paying for his school until we found something. I could tell he was let down but, what the fuck kid? I’m going to be homeless, paying for your college and supporting you is the last thing I can do right now.
Ashley also was supposed to see her daughter over the summer, she only gets 1 month now due to the new custody arrangement, and this would have cut into her time. So she’s more mad.
I finally found a house, the holiday weekend (memorial day?) the owner told us on Friday he would make a decision over the weekend . Then he was in the hospital for the weekend, and got out Monday and told us he would decide soon. He likes to have 3 or 4 people apply etc etc.
Finally Tuesday he let us know we could move in immediately once we paid the first month and security. Did that on Wednesday, signed the lease.
Let’s go back to memorial day weekend though. Saturday morning, I’m doing food prep, not much else we can do until we know if we are getting the house or not. I have a storage unit set up, but why move things to that if we are going to move to the house. Have mover on stand by but he wants like 2000 to move us.
And then the garbage disposal stops working. Sink will not drain. Okay put in a request to have it fixed, you know the only sink we have that is now clogged.
No response.
Tuesday we finally get told that someone will be out on June 2nd.
2 weeks to have a clogged sink/broken disposal? That’s Unacceptable. The property management keeps saying it doesn’t meet the ‘emergency’ guidelines they have for maintenance request.
We have asked for a list of ‘emergency’ guidelines. No response.
Also, the contractor will be there sometime between 8 am and 5 pm, they don’t have a way to get in the townhome so one of us will have to be home to let them in, I told them no. It’s not my problem at this point. You are the property management company and your lack of people is not my problem. We told you what days and times we were available when we put in the request. it’s now 2 weeks later. So go fuck yourself.
When they call me tomorrow to make sure I’ll be available at whatever time. I’ll tell them to contact the property management. I’m not going to be available until this Saturday between 2 pm and 4 pm. Of course if they insist that I’m available for this request, I’ll ask them for a contractor form to fill out. I charge 650 an hour, minimum of 4 hours. Cash up front. That’s my 1099 rate to come and do your job.
The other thing is that our AC doesn’t work right, due to the broken seals on all the windows. So running the AC costs so much it’s not worth it, we’ve been dealing with it with fans and those standing AC units but, it’s miserable.
The new place has central air, windows that work etc. And while it doesn’t have a garbage disposal, or a dishwasher. It has a working sink.
Seth has gone back to live at his mom’s. Since he’s not going to school this summer. Due to this moving and me not being able to afford both things, I told him I can pay for Fall, and they don’t have Winter classes, but he can do Spring and that will be the end of his program. He will graduate.
His mom and stepdad have been pushing him to come move back with them and get a job so he can start paying them.
From what I know his mom hasn’t been working for a while now, is trying to get on disability.
Stepdad is.. a car salesmen? I don’t know honestly not my circus. But they both expect him to start working and help them with their bills. Because that’s what you ‘have’ to do.
I told him he’s welcome to stay, since classes start in 2 months. But he wants to get a job and work and make money. Unfortunately he thought he could wait until now and people would just hold jobs for him. Shockingly they did not.
He has no where that he knows people to apply and I get the feeling he won’t be getting a job. He wants to buy himself a new computer, so he doesn’t have to pack up his computer and move back and forth he said.
I told him good luck. I built the last one and told him I’m not building him another one. That was the 2nd or 3rd one I paid for, so now he can get his own.
Not sure how he’s going to do that, but we’ll see what happens.
He did set up his new room, well build his desk and set things up where he wanted them but then he left to his mom’s and I don’t expect him back for a few months.
A couple of months ago when school let out I asked if he was going to go to his mom’s right away and start looking for a job. He said he didn’t want to, because he didn’t want to jump right back into work right away and more importantly, he liked the food better at my house.
From what I remember his mother was not a great cook.
SO what’s next?
For me I plan on trying to get rid of my car on Carvana, and trade it for something I can pay off quickly. Right now my car payment is almost 500 and insurance for myself ashley and seth is 500 as well. So 1000 for my stupid car… everyone else’s car is paid off.
I only owe another 10k on it, but since it’s a subaru they are offering me almost 20k for it, so i was looking over their cars for 8 to 10 k, nothing jumps out at me but I just want something for a few years, while we get our money in order.
Ashley wanted to consolidate some of her debt to get it paid off sooner, but I told her to hold off on that until we get settled into the new place, i fully expect the other place to try and fuck us over and keep the deposit or something. They are shady as fuck. Then this morning, ashley’s boss was fired.
He’s the whole reason she went back to the place at all. Now she’s all up in arms and wants to quit and I told her no. She’s not allowed. We just left one fucking stressful bullshit situation and you want to quit your job? fuck no. You need to find another job before you do anything.
I’m not saying she’s not allowed, but it would basically make us homeless if she did that. With how hard it is to find a job right now that would just be stupid as hell. She understands but like everyone ever, sometimes emotions get the best of you.
The new place is a 4 bedroom, but also has a bonus room that ashley claimed as her office since it is the smallest/darkest room. Which is good, that means I get a office to myself for once instead of sharing it with one of the kids as their bedroom when they are visiting or whatever. I plan on setting up my weight bench and such.
Last year when we moved, I did most of it myself as well, but I had to take almost a week off afterwards due to pain and what not.
Yesterday I fell asleep around 10, after putting ice on my back for a while. Woke up promptly at 3am. Because why not. Then couldn’t sleep. The difference is the pain is there, but it’s just muscle soreness that you’d expect from moving stuff around for 8+ hours. I’m not in crippling agonizing pain.
I mentioned before that last year I was finally able to put my shoes on without sitting down and lifting my foot up to my knee.
Now I’m able to do physical labor for a day and not be out of commission for a week. I’m sore sure, but it’s a ‘natural’ feeling. Just shrug it off. I’m still going to take a few days off before doing more physical things, but it’s nice to see some progress.
With my own ‘office/space’ i can start working out and maybe lose some of the weight and hopefully help my back more. It’s been 3 years of this and I don’t think I’ll ever be at 100% again but this is far better than I expected.
**Edit
I forgot, the uhaul cost me 121.00, and i put 50 dollars of gas in the tank. Opposed to a professional mover who would have cost me between 1000 and 2000. I still would have like to have that day back, but I need the money for other things. And we only hired the mover the last 2 times because I literally couldn’t do the moving myself. I did what I could but, again weakened etc etc.
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