Memory in 2014
- Dec. 22, 2014, 9:48 p.m.
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Amber has frequently complained that I don’t listen. She’s often criticized my inability to remember anything about what she tells me. I’ve often said that the difficulty is largely in how she tells things and/or our interaction during discussions. Whereas I pepper my speeches with vivid metaphors and bizarre jokes and side tracks, she tends to be straight forward and more abstract. Turns out that my way is actually much more conducive to memory. At least, for most guys. What interests me is that women have advantage encoding memory emotionally. She can follow the emotional trend of something and assign memories to it, but I am stuck without any reference points to go back to.
When I talk to people, I like to have random interjections. People say things, and an image pops into my head, or a joke presents itself, and I say it. Doing that, as it turns out, is one of the best things you can do to remember what a person says. Even having some random catchphrase that you do over and over, apparently, can work as a little place marker about a memory. With her, I don’t get to have that. Topic changes are disrespectful, jokes interrupt tone, side remarks aren’t focused. I’m not being given the tools that I need to memorize.
This, however, is probably just for my own sake. Inasmuch as I have a new theory that is supported by lots and lots of research, it’s still all somehow my fault.
Blargh
Amaryllis ⋅ December 23, 2014
'Emotional encoding' would explain why I can't remember anything for shit, too. I can feel my brain turning to mush when people just keep talking and talking, and I loose the thread, and I started to daydream, and I try so hard to hold on to the one thing I had to say, and then by the end all I can do is say 'Mmm hmm' and stare blankly and think about other things.
Amaryllis ⋅ December 23, 2014
Conversations gotta conversate...I never have anything to reply to people who insists on long lectures.