Ultimately, the accountability thing is an attempt to make sure I’m getting certain things done. That I am not “wasting my time on earth” while also seeing to the things I actually want to get done. So, I have.... mixed feelings, lol.
POSITIVE: I want to keep going on this Redemption Means Cleaning Garage concept. The Garage was one of the rooms that was never well and truly “unpacked”. SO, clearing the redemption (and then clearing the boxes) will open the garage a lot more. Will permit me to really start attacking the next element in there which directly connects to some of the last Fix the Outside stuff. My yard has serious needs. I have a serious deficit. Like… I don’t even know what Gardening or Yard Caretaking equipment I need to buy to make the yards pretty and functional. SO, by getting more space in the garage (and genuinely checking to see what kind of space the odd add on shed actually has.... then I am better positioned to “fill that space” with whatever gardening stuff I need to buy. That’s just… where my mind is on it all at the moment.
Which.... that kind of focus is going to be challenged. I am already behind in my Video Games, lol. I haven’t played the Borderlands 4 much (got through maybe 45 minutes of it so far, tops.) I haven’t even unwrapped Ghost of Yōtei (and that game is so my vibe!). And then tomorrow, I’m receiving my Vampire The Masquerade: Bloodlines 2 video game. And then next week, I’m getting Mortal Kombat Legacy Collection. SO… that will be 4 video games just sitting around waiting to see when I can fit them in, lol. I know that sounds insane to say aloud but it really isn’t any worse than any other POS (Pile of Shame) be it books, movies, magazines, Manga, Anime.... so many things can fill that spot. And… trying to find any sort of balance is difficult and ridiculous. I want to get my house stuff done. I want to have a happy dog. I want to get a healthier body. I want to platinum my video games. lol. Never enough time in a day ;) :)
TO DO
(1) Arrive home; review house w/Nala- give Good Girl treat as appropriate
(2) Respond to Personal E-Mails
(3) Change Clothes
(4) Take Dog for small walk
(5) Take Dog to Dog Park
(6) Upon arriving back home, whip up a dinner
(7) Do dishes and any kitchen cleaning necessary
(8) Continue w/Garage Plan– keep going through that Redemption Stuff
(9) Watch TV, Play Video Games, Take Some Time to actually try to relax a little… without alcohol!
So… first: Please go back an entry and give your advice on the advice section. OR stay tuned after this for more, lol.
(1) Easily taken care of; Nala was even such a good girl as to stay and not just immediately run off to the treat, lol.
(2) Personal E-Mails reviewed and deleted. No responses required.
(3) Changed clothes
(4) Stepped outside for a bit and… yeah :( Raining. So no walk. But when I turned to Nala, she was… beside herself. Running around and around and barking and.... she needed to go to the Dog Park and didn’t care if it was raining!
(5) SO we went to the dog park. And she saw a squirrel in the first five minutes, so she sat frozen in place for an hour… in the rain. We spent a total of almost two hours there and she seemed to enjoy it! So… she is willing and able to play in the rain if she’s motivated enough!
(6) Came home and whipped up a.... fusion… of a way. Made a Voila Steamed Low Mein meal; put most of it in the fridge but used a small portion as a Flavorful Topping to steamed Vegetable Medley (corn, carrots, green beans, etc). SO… hopefully… using the kitchen properly as was my desire while also eating healthier which is always worth a shot.
(7) Did the dishes and made the kitchen clean… which also feeds into the goal using the kitchen properly
(8) Collected all the easily accessible cans and filled the trunk. I’m… somewhat developing a plan for garage redemption to get me through the last as I now have three boxes of “Hy Vee Wouldn’t Take It”… but I need to do it on a weekend and I work this weekend, so… I’ll just keep doing the daily trips until I’ve exhausted all options.
And so… everything taken care of by 8:30!
Except… additional advice needed.
So, in my last entry I asked for advice about Dating and Silence. With apologies, I’ll paste it here:
AND SEEK ADVICE
During lunch, the person I was supposed to meet yesterday sent another apology and request to reschedule. I responded suggesting Saturday afternoon, or we could do a proper meal on Saturday evening. Haven’t heard from her since, I’m guessing/expecting she’ll respond when she’s off work.... or at least hoping that’s what’s going on.
NOW here’s the part where I need advice:
ADVICE BEING SOUGHT FOR THIS
The matchmaking service sent 3 names. Hermia, Sunday’s Cancelation, and a Third Option. I e-mailed the third option, she e-mailed back, and then I sent her an e-mail with essentially “That sounds great! Here’s some introductory information about me (contained) and I look forward to learning more about you!” (or something to that effect). But I’ve heard nothing since. In her as-yet only response e-mail, she gave me her phone number.
HERE IS WHAT I AM WONDERING
Should I reach out again via e-mail? Should I text her? Should I text her and go directly to setting up a date? Like a “Hey, this is Chris. Was wondering if you’d have time or interest to grab a coffee this weekend?” OR should I take the silence as sever?
BECAUSE
up to now, I’ve taken silence as sever. When Laura stopped responding to my texts? Yeah- figured that was a pretty clear “And there will not be a third date.” When the other woman, the date from July, stopped responding to texts, I figured that was a pretty clear, “Okay, she said she wanted a second date but clearly changed her mind!”
BUT/SO
That feels.... like maybe I should be pressing for more direct evidence??? Like… not responding to a text can happen. “I thought I responded and didn’t” or “I was thinking about the response so long that by the time I was going to reply, it felt awkward” or a number of other things. BUT… as much as I liked Laura and as much as we were texting.... NOT taking her silence as sever seems.... aggressive, unnecessarily aggressive. THUS why I am seeking advice. If I could have developed something with Laura by not taking her silence as sever? That’s.... I did like her. I don’t want to have questions like that. I want to respect women and I want to make sure that I’m not being creepy or aggressive but I don’t want to just think “OK, they didn’t respond so that’s a no!” Thus WHY I AM SEEKING ADVICE, thank you! Do I reach back out to Woman Number 3?
ADDITIONAL ADVICE
So.... we’re reaching to the end of the day, and I still haven’t heard back from Sunday’s Cancelation. I’m going to share my exact words and I want you to tell me if I (a) said something wrong; (b) wasn’t direct enough that I want her response; or (c) if I sounded like I wasn’t interested. OH, and after reading it..... should I send another text? Or do I wait for a response? Blast this generation’s “Ghosting is Communicating”. It bloody well is not and I’m not well pleased with a Silence is Sever even if it is culturally appropriate and acceptable.
Anyway… my text to her:
Thank you for reaching back out. I have to work Saturday and Sunday morning but was thinking about Saturday afternoon or even a proper dinner on Saturday would work if that works for you.
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