ASM in Book Seven: Reconstruction 2020
- Oct. 4, 2020, 2:14 p.m.
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I’m asking all social media: When a problem cannot be solved with anything other than patience, but there is still pain or hardship… what is the limit on “discussing it?” Is there a time where “enough is enough” or should one feel free to communicate whenever?
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Deleted user ⋅ October 04, 2020
I believe everyone should have at least one outlet to express themselves freely.
AppleGirl ⋅ October 04, 2020 (edited October 04, 2020)
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Death, abandonment, abuse. I don’t think there is a limit on how long it may affect you or whether you can/should discuss it as long as the discussion is healthy and you are moving through the stages of grief.
I still find myself thinking about and sometimes discussing my childhood abuse, but now I can do it much more objectively and retrospectively rather than saying (and meaning) things like, “If I could kill my stepmom and get away with it, I would.”
If I were still angry or raging about it, that would be unhealthy.
Camdengirl ⋅ October 04, 2020
I’m not super patient about this, because even when a situation just needs time, you can do a lot to help yourself.
What bugs me is when my mum asks for advice, refuses to follow it and then asks me about the same thing a week later... we already had this conversation and she’s ignored what I said. There’s no point in repeating it.
If someone can’t move past something, then they need help from a professional - having someone without a horse in the race to listen to you, ask insightful questions etc. is useful.
-d Camdengirl ⋅ October 04, 2020
I agree with this as well. I think people are free to talk about whatever they want as much as they want....but there will come a point where it becomes annoying for other people to listen to. Especially if the person doesn't take steps to alleviate the issue. I believe everyone has the power to change the things they don't like in their lives....it's just a matter of being willing to put in the work. And if it's a situation that will only remedy itself with time...but is painful? I think looking at it with an optimistic perspective could work wonders. Focusing on the negative just makes it that much worse. Plus...people generally get far less annoyed hearing about hope than why everything isn't working and why it can't be changed.
Always Laughing ⋅ October 04, 2020
With my bffs no limit with people not as close I tend to not over talk anything because it's not their place to help me.