Sunday in Weight Loss Surgery

Yesterday was a lazy day.

Will did get home I think at like 4am and went straight to bed, he was exhausted. But that means he was up early.

I don’t think I mentioned but last weekend the microwave stopped heating up food. All the fights work and the food spins but it stopped cooking.

Will looked up some youtube fixes and found one that talked about our issue and the part to get. The part came Saturday so as soon as he got up Sunday he wanted my help with the microwave.

We have the one that hangs from the cabinet above the counter so it was a bitch getting down - lots of screws. But after that was done he didn’t really need my help and I just nursed my belly in front of the TV.

It took him 3 hours to take the microwave apart and put the new piece in, and after all that - it didn’t work.

So then he just bought one. I think it was around $300. I know there are cheaper ones but ours being a hanging one we were limited in what we could buy that would fit the wall bracket and be able to hang like the old one did.

Plus he might have gotten a stainless steel one. He kept asking me what color I wanted and I don’t really give a fuck. Part if me has a little disdain about this apartment because it’s not mine. I pay rent in the home my parents own. I dunno I’m just bitter and don’t really care.

My mom keeps wanting to come in and repaint and I’m like fuck no. I’m not inconveniencing myself at all for an necessary paint job. Save it for the new renters - if there ever are new renters - doesn’t look like we’re ever leaving this place. But that’s a rant for another day.

He kept wanting me to tell my parents that the microwave was broke but he says he didn’t want them to pay for it. So I guess he was just looking for recognition or acknowledgement, I dunno.

So I sent then a pic of the microwave and told them it wasn’t working and Will spent hours trying to get it to work and it didn’t so he bought one. And of course they asked the price and offered to pay but we didn’t tell them the price or take them up on their offer.

In other news, I lightly tried to bring up some surgery talk to Will.
It’s weird because, after our little spat about him not wanting to buy protein shakes or even TRY the food tracking app. I was a little worried that maybe I was forcing him into this and he didn’t want it.

And for the record, I am not. All I said a few weeks ago was since we aren’t getting a house but I do have some savings I was thinking about getting the balloon weight loss procedure and he said he was also interested.

Then in snowballed into the balloon not being covered but surgery might be covered AND it would result in much more weightloss than the balloon ever would and I told him I attended a virtual seminar on the surgeries and made an appointment at a doctor’s office to talk more and he asked that I make an appointment for him too.

So now that he’s on board I have been talking non stop about anything to do with the surgery but he kinda clams up, which makes me worried he doesn’t want to do it.

And I told, nothing would change between us if I did this an he didn’t. I’m sure his insecure self is worried I’ll lose 100lbs and leave him but I’m not that kind of person and I do love him and do think we were meant to find eachother and be together.

I stop short of saying soulmates. Maybe it’s cause I’m a child of divorce, I don’t believe that there’s one perfect person. There may be a perfect person for that time in your life but people change and divorce is not wrong if two people grow apart and then, in a new season of your life you may find another person who’s “perfect” for that moment in your life. But that’s getting too deep and off topic LOL

ANYWAY he said that he is excited for the surgery, he wants to lose weight and do things he can’t physically do right now. High on his weight loss bucket list is amusement park rides.But also just not being tired when walking. I know he has some knee pain and back pain and it gave him a little trouble on our vacation last year in OCMD when we did a lot of walking.

BUT I understand he, and his family, have experienced some major setbacks at points in time when they had high hopes for things. Usually monetary setbacks. And I don’t think he wants to allow himself to be happy or excited about this until it is concrete in writing that we are approved to do this and can afford it.

I think he’s thinking by holding back his happiness about all this, he will curb his disappointment when/if this idea doesn’t work out.

And I get that, we both will be very disappointed if this doesn’t work out.

But I can’t help myself. I can’t hold back my excitement. I really am feeling like this IS going to work out even though I don’t know how and I’m prepared for the fact that it might not be a quick process. And I can’t help thinking about how life will be AFTER.

I’ve read a lot of stories about people who weigh less than us and we’re still approved. People in worse healthy who were approved. People who have our same insurance and got it covered. People who lost 80lbs in 6 months and are so happy right now. People who are saying ” I don’t know why I waited so long, do it now!”. I’m ready!!

Plus I’ve been learning so much since researching this. The options of different surgeries. How minimal the scaring is. How low the mortality rate is. I stalled on this for so long because of fear of the unknown. And now that I’m getting more educated about it, I’m not as worried as I used to be.

Plus between us we know like 5 people who have had the surgery and 4 out of 5 are very happy with their decision. Will’s sister is the only one not happy but she got the surgery we are not going to get and she got pregnant right after and gained back all the weight she lost. That is not going to be our situation.

So I’m gonna try my best not to push him and hopefully the doctor’s appointment will give him some hope.

And for those that asked:

I believe my insurance asks for a YEAR of dieting monitored by a doctor before you can qualify for surgery. I don’t know if you have to lose weight but you do have to try. You have to show that you have a bit of control over yourself to show you can be successful after surgery when you will have a strict diet to follow.

But the details on how long you have to diet or how much you have to lose seem to vary and some people get the surgery sooner. I’m hoping and praying that showing our previous doctor’s notes that show we’ve been fat forever and me at least showing that I attempted weight watchers at one point and failed will get our doctor monitored dieting time lessened so we can get to the surgery sooner.

You also need a mental evaluation as well but I don’t know if we could just use our marriage counselor or if someone in the doctor’s office has to do it. I don’t even know if I want to use our marriage counselor because she doesn’t want us to get the surgery.

I don’t know who exactly makes the decision on the date of my surgery. The doctor or the insurance. I don’t know what requirements I have to fulfill before I get a surgery date.

When I go to my doctor’s visit I don’t know what will happen. I know that me and Will want the sleeve but I don’t believe we get to request what we want. The doctor will test and examine you and tell you what he thinks is best.

It seems like people with intestinal issues or acid reflux have certain restrictions on the surgery they can get. Neither me nor Will have chronic acid reflux but we don’t know if we have herniated intestines or anything else weird going on until they take a look inside.

I don’t know if this visit is going to be an examination or just a talk. I’m ready for either if they want. We were told we didn’t have to bring anything to the office. They had a bunch of medical forms online to fill out, which I did. I don’t think Will did yet cause that’s Will.

I’m down for anything at this appointment. If they wanna scope me, scan me, examine me, take pictures, etc.

But at the very least I need that code the insurance company asked for so we can talk pricing.

Last updated December 20, 2020