But Do You Like Her? in Life After 60

There is a classic scene in the 1965 movie Shenandoah, where Charlie Anderson, played by Jimmy Stewart, has a conversation with his daughter’s suitor, Lieutenant Sam. In the film, Sam approaches Charlie Anderson to ask for his daughter’s hand in marriage. The conversation goes like this:

Sam: I want to ask for your daughter’s hand in marriage.
Charlie: Why? Why do you want to marry her?
Sam: Well, I love her.
Charlie: That’s not good enough. Do you like her?
Sam: I just said I….
Charlie: No, no. You said you loved her. There is some difference between love and like. You see, Sam, when you love a woman without likin’ her, the night can be long and cold, and contempt comes up with the sun.

 This is some advice I wish someone would have given me when I was young.  Of course, I would have most likely ignored it.  But now I understand and appreciate it.  My mother taught me to respect women.  But I didn't understand that your spouse should be someone you like.  And love sometimes comes later or never at all.  
 I have been divorced for 10 years now, not of my own chosen, but looking back it was the best thing because when you wake up next to someone you don't like as Charlie Anderson said,  when you love a woman without likin’ her, the night can be long and cold, and contempt comes up with the sun.