Reminder in Book Four: Ichi-no-Tani 2017
- Oct. 6, 2017, 4:46 p.m.
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I need to re-read some of my PB writing from last year.
Because I am back in the mindset “I never should have left.” And I know better. I know that not being in Tiny Town is better. But when your bosses tell you “We DO NOT CARE about you as a person, you need to give us all of your time”.... it makes you think. Because if you had told me that all of my time would go toward a job that paid half as well with no insurance? I would have taken a hard pass. As important as it was to get back to Des Moines, there were some sacrifices I was willing to make. A hit in pay, a hit in insurance… I was not happy about it… but I was able to accept it because we were moving someplace where it would be easier/better to live. But if I’m not allowed to live… then it wasn’t a bargained for exchange. (Though, technically it was)
HOW A BARGAIN FOR EXCHANGE WORKS
To constitute a contract, an agreement between two parties must have been a bargained-for exchange. This occurs when a promise or performance (consideration) is provided from each side in exchange for a return promise or performance provided by the other side. Without a bargained-for exchange of consideration, there is no enforceable contract, but merely a gratuitous promise.
The Bargain I thought:
You give up (Money) + (Insurance), You receive (Location) + (Opportunity)
The bargain I got:
You give up (Money) + (Insurance) + (Time) + (Life), You receive (Location) - (Ability to enjoy Location).
So I still received something in exchange. The consideration is valid. It just…
Yeah. I need to re-read old Tiny Town entries. Remind myself why we left.
White Rabbit ⋅ October 06, 2017
Not sure what you do, but I always recommend going into business for yourself I never had insurance or money or time. Now I have all three... Given I have state insurance, but at least I have it.
Deleted user ⋅ October 06, 2017
Yes. Re- read those but you are happier in your current location , now you just need a better job. You could go almost anywhere else at this point and do better. You could be a paralegal temporarily and make more money, have benefits , and less crap than from those cheap people! Just make up your mind to find a different job until you get the one you like. These days people change employers often. It's all a matter of finding a position that suits your life as it is now; this job is all for them and nothing that benefits you.
Rivercity ⋅ October 06, 2017
I think you wrote pretty vividly about why Tinytown was awful. At least you're in Des Moines now. I think the bad thing that both jobs have in common is that you have hardly any colleagues in your workplace and your bosses at both places were/are unpleasant or incompetent. I think it's hard to get away from bad bosses, but could you look next time for a job where at least there would be a lot of people you could actually talk to, even if they're not doing the same exact work you are? I find having no actual friends at my job is the worst thing.
Park Row Fallout Rivercity ⋅ October 06, 2017
This is SO true and I didn't realize it. A little human interaction seems to go a long way!
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coffeemate ⋅ October 06, 2017
I work in a large company in hr and all of our employee relations team are lawyers. Have you thought about job shopping in a corporate environment?
Park Row Fallout coffeemate ⋅ October 06, 2017
I had never heard the term "employee relations" so I'm definitely googling that and what that job entails. Thanks.