'Failures' and secrets!! in blackpropaganda

It is interesting the response you have to successes and failures in the family. Mostly sons tell us all about the things which have gone well - sporting success of the grandchildren, academic work done etc etc - and this week younger son had an interview for a new job - he is not unhappy with the school he is in, but wanted a new challenge. He let us know when the interview was (Wednesday) and he should have heard on Wednesday evening - but no news. Now why should we get all uptight about whether he got the job or not? Because, of course, we want him to succeed in what he does - Thursday morning he hears he came second.
He was disappointed - but then I had a phone call with him that evening - and the very fact of possibly losing him has galvanised his own school into action - he has a good job anyway - there were disadvantages in the change. So in the end you rationalise your feelings - you win some you lose some - it reminded me of this advice from Samuel Becket

And just caught up with the new ITV drama The Secret - based on a real life story of lust, love, murder, and guilt over twenty years, played out in a small town in Northern Ireland. Worth watching for the performance of James Nesbitt as the Bible-thumping Lothario dentist who conceived the crime of killing both his wife and his lover’s husband, making it appear to be a suicide pact, and getting away with it - at least for twenty years, when he confessed - and brought down the house of cards. You could not make it up.
Here’s a crit of JN’s preformance

James Nesbitt, who plays Colin and who’s from the area (his sister knew Colin’s wife), is utterly convincing in the role. It’s a brilliant, terrifying portrait of a man who is charming and clever, a pillar of the community (never trust those pillars) but also manipulative and controlling, and who thinks that the rules – of law and of God – simply don’t apply to him.

One thing came back - the crime was in 1990/1 - and there were no mobile phones, no e mails, no twitter - they rang each other on the home phones - how much easier it is to have an affair now - or is it???
and - I love this