My boyfriend is sleeping and daughter has the Tv timer set so she’ll be going to bed soon. My boyfriend told me earlier while dinner was on the grill that he felt he wasn’t supportive enough because it took him too long at the store and wasn’t able to make it home by the time I had to go. I told him I got the notification he got home just a couple of minutes before I left but honestly, I wasn’t thinking anything. I just felt numb and don’t even remember the drive to the courthouse.
I just remember how I felt getting the note from the Sheriff for the custody matter. I remember how I felt when I called him on his birthday. I asked if he wanted to make an agreement where he said, “oh no, we’re still going to court” and I also remember his little girlfriend calling me afterwards threatening me.
Ya know, if I felt he was truly sad that he didn’t get what he wanted, I may feel some type of way. I would bet money that he came because he truly thought everything was gonna go his way. Watching him stiffen his arms, his face red, and just the scary look he had is just more confirmation that he was just WAITING FOR a custody order to continue to abuse me through the courts and I would just have to endure it. He is so angry that honestly it’s nice that the shoe is FINALLY on the other foot. How does he think I have felt being a single Mom for almost 8 years and all that time he didn’t even pay CS but still had a roof over his head and food in his belly.
I keep thinking more and more about everything that was said in the courtroom. His lies are just ridiculous. All in the same breathe he said he lived with his girlfriend but was waiting for his apartment to be ready. Um, you wouldn’t be living with her then, you’d be staying with her dumbass!! It’s like a couple years ago he had posted a go fund me saying how he was a single parent but needed a place for his daughter to come visit?! Um, that’s an interesting choice of words. When your child LIVES with you, they aren’t visiting! That’s their home!
I just feel so much relief. Like the world has been lifted off my shoulders. I don’t have to live in fear anymore. I have felt like this since the start of April when I had to pick up the papers from the Sheriff’s office. I’ve lived in fear for almost 2 months that not only would my child have to deal with someone who has her walk around town, doesn’t have food for her, and would have her sleeping on a floor or outside AND deal with his emotional abuse was the most overwhelming experience of my entire life.
This person has gone above and beyond to try and have control over me and I honestly can’t thank God enough for what he did for me today. I was so fucking scared and once the judge said he was denying his petition, I took a deep breathe and realized everything was going to be okay. It felt good to know that I don’t have to be scared anymore. I am also very thankful I didn’t meet up with him before court because I think he just wanted to know what I was going to say or ask for so he could have a second to try and figure out how to lie as much as possible. I think he was definitely going to use whatever I said against me.
I’m grateful that the judge saw his bullshit and didn’t choose to have my daughter ride the struggle bus with her deadbeat Father. If he was a stable person I would have had no problem doing 50/50. If I felt my daughter was taken care of with him and it wasn’t EVER a question, he would have gotten what he wanted. I wish that he would have taken the last 8 years to be stable so that he could have his child and this could be a normal situation.
My boyfriend even said that I don’t keep her from her Dad because I don’t like him. It’s not about my personal feelings at all. Everyone knows that he isn’t able to take care of her. Now that this is all over, I’d love to know who told him to petition for parenting time. He was never going to get her half the time but he didn’t want to start out at the bottom. He thought by asking for ‘equal’ say was the thing to do. He didn’t want to start out small because all he could think is if he gets 50/50 he won’t have to pay CS anymore.
He was trying to completely fuck me over. It’s always been his thing to leave me holding the fucking bag. I remember the other day him messaging me saying that if we do 50/50 and I’m to pay him CS that he would give it back to me. Um no. Just no. You still owe me $12K! He’s always wanted EVERYTHING to his benefit even if it means hurting his child.
My boyfriend was somewhat irritated that I let him see her over the weekend but it turned out to be the absolute best thing. He said that he thought it would be best to wait for court but with me telling the judge that his girlfriend had so many kids and my daughter being overstimulated, kinda cut out the possibility of him getting her. BD even told the judge that she has 4 kids and was babysitting her nieces and they were being really disrespectful. It’s weird how he lies all the time and then picks the WORST fucking times to be honest. It’s fucking insane.
Alright, I gotta start to unwind so I can go to sleep. I wanna be up and ready for work by 6am.
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