management solutions in Bittersweet

  • March 17, 2021, 7:59 p.m.
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my manager took me aside and asked if i was doing ok after our chat. She thinks i need to talk to manager D about my concerns and shes going to address some of the others. Such as the “preferental “treatment. She did say a few things that kinda make me go shit… Not that im in trouble. Just that… shit. If you remember my last post i may have mentioned talking to my other co workers the part time kids. So shes worried that it becomes a gang up on D if i speak more with them. What im dealing with and what they are dealing with is two different cakes.
For one, she literally said she chooses not to overly care if the part time kids get their feelers hurt when they are instructed. They are taught but only when they show some dedication to work. As part timers and kids, she expects them to leave the job sooner rather then later as they find something else. she said she CAN care about them and whatnot, but she chooses to focus her energy on her full time. Basically full time employees are a family. A tight knit, we must work together family. We are cogs and we must function together to work. Part timers are like extended family. Cousins and whatnot. We love them, but when one goes away, we wont notice. And i do get this position.
So i did say i dont feel manager D is being malicious. More like Either neglectful or i cant do anything right.
IE she dosent hate me, she just dosnet really like me.
But then today is D’s day off, Its my monday, I only work 2 days a week with her due to our schedules. My 2 days off then her 2 days off then work together 2 days then im off again. ( we do 4 on 2 off) So she came in and said hello. how am i doing ect. Then when i saw her when i left she said goodnight sweetie. So maybe we just really need to learn how to live with one another. Maybe im too up for her sometimes. In any event, im going to make some quick soaps and give her some and ask her what i need to do to make our relationship at work better. Because i dont like the not speaking or being watched, or not utilized. After 5 months there, i feel like im capable of taking on the responsibility of being able to stock shelves in the department i clean daily . Manager M has told others im a great teacher. I LIKE that kind of responsibility lol. If we cant learn to joke around with one another. At least we can learn some respect and kindness.
I fully realize i need to make some progress and changes too. Im far from perfect. But this is literally the only thing that keeps me from enjoying my job fully. Most of the time i enjoy it quite a bit.
Well time to make some soap i guess.


music & dogs & wine March 17, 2021

Hope it gets better with her and you don't feel like you have to kiss her ass and make soaps for her to like you. I have been there with asshole managers where they are nice sometimes and then downright awful until I kissed their ass again. It's not a healthy work dynamic at all!

ChainedChrysalis music & dogs & wine ⋅ March 18, 2021

I dont think im going to do that at all. I want to make a offering of kindness and hope things will improve. That maybe she just dosent know me well and i would like her to think im a kinder person then that.

music & dogs & wine ChainedChrysalis ⋅ March 18, 2021

I hope it works! :)

ChainedChrysalis music & dogs & wine ⋅ March 18, 2021

Well i made lemon and tangerine soaps. They smell so yummy!! Like a sweet lemon. Next time ill add some vanilla. YUMMY. They smell good enough to eat haha.

music & dogs & wine ChainedChrysalis ⋅ March 18, 2021

That sounds amazing!! Do you sell on Etsy or anything?

ChainedChrysalis music & dogs & wine ⋅ March 18, 2021

I dont list them. I typically go to farmers markets with them. Happy to sell a few though! I did shae butter and buttermilk bases this time.
I made earth after the rain, which is a blend of different tree essential oils. And then a womans blend with lavender ylang ylang and clary sage. I make that one after my aunt was going through menopause and it was rough. So i started making the blend and she adores it.
I tend not to make too much flowery scents. I dont like flowery scents too much. OOH i made a spicy cinnamon with a dash of clove too.

music & dogs & wine ChainedChrysalis ⋅ March 18, 2021

I am way more into masculine scents anyway! I don't like flowery crap.

I LOVE clary sage! It smells like amazing tea! I have an essential oil, which I vaporize, and sometimes just dab it on my wrists. I want a clary sage candle!

Spicy cinnamon and clove sounds divine!

That's awesome you do farmers markets! Well let me know if you are open to selling, I will buy!

ChainedChrysalis music & dogs & wine ⋅ March 18, 2021

I would be happy to sell you some. Let me know what oil scent you like! I mix the clary sage with lavender, But i dont have to. It would be pretty with cedar too, or on its own. I also couild use oatmeal, coffee or salt as a scrub in the soaps.
I can make candles too :) I really enjoy hand crafts haha.
I sell them for 4 dollars for a small soap which are not travel sizes. More like palm of your hand designed soaps. and 5 for a bar. I just ordered some really pretty soap molds with the tree of life on them if you want fancy haha. They will be here next week. I really like the buttermilk, It feels amazing on my hands after mixing it. I also do goats milk, honey and the typical shae butter. I hate glycerine soaps so i dont make them lol.

music & dogs & wine ChainedChrysalis ⋅ March 18, 2021

OMG yes! You just found a buyer. I love goats milk, have not tried buttermilk! But sign me up for some buttermilk clary sage soap! I would like to have it on it's own to start and see how I like it! I have Venmo if you take that! How about one buttermilk clary sage and if you have some just sitting round let me know what they are and I will tell you what I want :) Don't need you custom making all kinds of stuff for me!

ChainedChrysalis music & dogs & wine ⋅ March 19, 2021

So buttermilk lemon and tangerine
Clary sage lavender chammomile ceder and blue tansy,
Cinnamon and clove shae butter.
Then one i call rise which is a blend of some florals and citrus. But its very much one that is personal. Either you like it or you hate it.
I havent used buttermilk before. This was my first time. But i am LOVING how my skin feels. Like omg. My skin feels so smooth. It dosent feel like dried out. I hate glycerine soaps so i stay far far away.
I also found some recipies for honey based. Which makes me crazy excited to try too!

music & dogs & wine ChainedChrysalis ⋅ March 20, 2021

Honey based sounds interesting! I would try the first three :)

ChainedChrysalis music & dogs & wine ⋅ March 22, 2021

ok got some soaps going!! I got a new mold with a tree of life on it, so pretty haha.

music & dogs & wine ChainedChrysalis ⋅ March 22, 2021

Yay!

ChainedChrysalis music & dogs & wine ⋅ March 22, 2021

I made you the cinnamon and the clary sage. Anything else?

music & dogs & wine ChainedChrysalis ⋅ March 22, 2021

That should be good for now! <3 Thank you!!

ChainedChrysalis music & dogs & wine ⋅ March 24, 2021

awesome, do you do venmo or paypal? $12 will cover the soap and shipping.

ChainedChrysalis music & dogs & wine ⋅ March 18, 2021

floral scents are too sweet. I like things citrus, tart, crisp and spicy.

Jinn March 18, 2021

Hoping she is kinder than she has been acting.

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