I am not using sex as a weapon. Well I guess maybe I am. But weapon for intimacy.
I disagree that it's not worth the effort. We are in a committed relationship and as such it is important to know what we want from each other. So next step for me is communication to "figure it out."

Word of advice, If you are just around women who use it as a weapon your either not listening to them or just around the wrong kind of women.