Seeing it again in Book Seven: Reconstruction 2020
- Nov. 28, 2020, 5:14 p.m.
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For some reason, I am seeing a lot of Facebook posts today about “Women, don’t let your man treat you bad.” Or “Why ain’t there men with emotional intelligence?” Or “How hard is it for a man to keep a job?”
And I’m like… WHAT?!
I know I am not supposed to be taking any of that in. These are just women that I know having issues with men and that is as far as that goes.
But it does get to me. Because it is hard to hear all of these complaints being able to check off my qualities.
Why can’t I get a man with good taste?
Done. Right here.
Why can’t I ever find a man that can keep a job?
Done. Right here.
Why can’t I find a man in-touch with his emotions?
Done. Right here.
Why do I always date men who treat me bad?
Right here, know how to treat a woman!
I hate how my man don’t treat my kids good.
Rargh!
Honestly… I know. I know, I know, I know.
But it is annoying. Bothersome. Frustrating. Maybe I’m not the best looking or the most interesting man in the world … but I’m stable, caring, intelligent, emotionally self aware, open minded, good with kids, generous… and available. But whatever. Whatever. I’ll just accept that being a stable caring adult isn’t an attractive quality in a man.
Sleepy-Eyed John ⋅ November 28, 2020
Attraction is not a choice. Women don't just decide to like a guy based on his EQ. Maybe it factors in but it's not what they want. You seem like you talk to enough women. Instead of bitching about how it's not fair why not ask them what they find attractive or otherwise learn how to build relationships with women. It's good practice and it's rather nice in its own right. You've got things going for you but the same things that get you laid long-term get you laid short-term. It's not easy believe me I know but you can increase your chances substantially by not begrudging every person out there for what you're not doing effectively. As for your looks I think you should be fine. You're a solid enough guy but why should a woman want that if you don't inspire those gushy feelings first? I think modern women want more from a man than stability. I'd ask questions. You have 10 000 women here to learn from. Just trying to help dude.