He Didn't Show in My Life

In marriage counseling, it's helpful when both parties show up. We had an appointment at 1 today. I emailed him - so he could save it and remember - Monday that the appointment was Weds at 1pm. He confirmed. Mentioned later that night that he thought it was on the 26th; I said Wednesday is the 26th. And then he finally texted me 15 mins ago to say he thought it was tomorrow. All wasn't lost. I spent the time talking myself and by the end she was saying maybe it's time to have the discussion about where we both REALLY are. Maybe we both just don't feel this is going to work in the long wrong, and it's time to decide that this is okay and that sometimes marriages don't work out. The beginning started with discussions of couples retreats and after I opened up about how I really felt, that's where it went.
She said all the things I've thought; that it's scary to admit that maybe it's over. That they're hard discussions to have, hard things to realize. She asked how I thought the kids would be if we did end up divorce. We actually discussed divorce. I was ready to cry and now I'm just sad and disappointed. He hasn't responded to my "I emailed you Monday and said it was Wednesday at 1" text 20 mins ago. She said if we were (and really let's face it, me) excited about fixing things, about getting that love back, that we'd be going into things full force and that's not happening. That the effort hasn't been stepped up really, that we're just ho humming along. I explained to her my thoughts....that for ten years, he was living a great life for himself. His wife paid the bills, raised the kids, worked, cooked dinners, did the laundry, did the housework. I said he should've been born in the 50s. That I spent those years lonely and getting increasingly upset at how little he helped and put into our life and our marriage. That's he either was always very selfish and I couldn't see it because of our whirlwind life and now that the kids are a bit older and I'm coming out of this fog of thekidsaremyeverythingletsjustsurvive modeI'm seeing it? I don't know. But he just simply does nothing for me; nothing that for ME shows I have someone that truly cares about me and my well being. It was one of the most frightening things as she talked about having a discussion with G about ..... is this really something to work on or is it time to say, enough. It felt a little better hearing her say that this was ok....if it goes this way, that this happens, that not everything works. But still...... I don't think I want it anymore :( But we will see. " I can't believe I missed an appt. I look forward to them. So the next appt is XX XX X?" I can't believe you did either.