emotions in emotions

Been seeing a therapist but she calls herself a counselor, why? what is the difference? Unsure if I am being helped? I say that because i just don’t know. I am with and loving the best man naturally , any woman would be grateful but last year because i had emotional feelings for his best friend and friendship broke … that was tough on me immensely - i stupidly tried replacing him bc i could not stop trying to talk to him and he kept getting more mad at me. I fell for another mans voice and stopped caring about this friend who was done with me. i was trapped and became someone i am ashamed of but trying to loop back - 39 years never acted on an impulse. I am sexually attracted to this other mans voice. he gets me excited and i’m not sure how to let go. i’m in the midst right now bc i feel disloyal - but my body wants him. it is unrealistic. bizarre. my libido is on high drive , not my heart or mind.