Public? Why not?! in Book Five: Working Through the Maze 2018
- Oct. 9, 2018, 8:10 p.m.
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(Meant to publish last night)
This is a public entry from a public servant. This is the kind of thing that would prevent me from getting a Federal Appointment in the future. But the difference between someone like Kavanaugh and me?! If someone said “This has come to light, what do you say?” I would admit, explain, and lay it out for the court of Government, Opinion, and Family. Kavanaugh was caught REPEATEDLY in perjurous statements, but was confirmed due to the GOP slave-state beholden to Trump in the Gamble v. US issue. And if you are a Kavanaugh supporter because of “due process” but don’t know about Gamble v US… you don’t know SHIT. The FBI was told to limit their investigation. The confirmation was intentionally rushed. Kavanaugh was an ordained appointment… not an advise and consent appointment… all because of an impending Supreme Court Corruption Case.
ANYWAY… sorry.... got distracted by that misery… sick to fuck of assholes on this site and others screaming “Victory for Due Process, Kavanaugh Confirmed!” Because… well… really?! The Prosecutor Bar of America has pretty much said, “Appropriate investigation into the allegations has not occurred.” So if you actually gave a fuck about due process you would consider Kavanaugh’s confirmation as an abuse of power… not an example of Due Process.
But I digress. I did not mean to semi-drunkenly start a Prosebox Entry to discuss the Kavanaugh bullshit… though bullshit it is.
Instead, I wanted to discuss something else. Well… something else that may still be part of the same “wheel house.” Because… sex and sexual interaction.
Maybe THAT is why I had the dream I did oh so many years ago!
If I am dating a woman, and I lean in to kiss her, and she says “no” but I kiss her anyway: SEXUAL ASSAULT. Even if Iowa Law doesn’t agree.
If I am dating a woman, and we are in bed together, and I finger her… and she objects… but I continue? SEXUAL ASSAULT.
If I am dating a woman, and she freezes me out, not even kissing, and so I whip my dick out and tell her to suck it? SEXUAL ASSAULT.
If I am dating a woman, and she freezes me out, not even kissing, and so I whip my dick out and force her to suck it? SEXUAL ASSAULT.
If I am married to a woman, and we’re having sex… and she says “Ow. No. Stop. It isn’t working for me,” and I still continue the sex? SEXUAL ASSAULT.
If I am married to a woman, and she gets passed out black out drunk… and I have sex with her? SEXUAL ASSAULT.
I just… I don’t get why this is hard for people. I am a horny dude. I am a horny Dude whose wife rejects sex over and over, constantly. If we were going to discuss “who deserves sex despite consent” I would put myself and MBFITWW at the fucking top of that list! Despite being physically, emotionally, and sexually abused… I waited for marriage. MBFITWW is over 30 years old and is still a virgin as he doesn’t want to lose his V Card to someone he doesn’t see a future with. AND YET WE DON’T RAPE!!
Are you fucking kidding me?! I am a man in a good job, with money, that isn’t “hideous”, and genuinely cares about people. If anyone deserves to have a sexual encounter from time to time.... it is me. BUT I DON’T RAPE, I DON’T SEXUALLY ASSAULT!
I’m horny as fuck. If Raven wanted to FaceChat me as she drilled herself… I’d probably say yes. BUT I WOULD NOT FORCE A WOMAN TO DO ANYTHING, ESPECIALLY ANYTHING SEXUAL. Even while drunk.
I don’t want to repeat myself but… essentially? Here is the Capsule Summary of how I am feeling and what I am saying:
I am
naked
and drunk.
I would love to have a sexual interaction of some type.
Any type.
Be it a series of sexy e-mails, a large number of sexy pictures, someone calling me to jill off as I listen, or whatever. I am near desperate for a fulfilling sexual interaction.
But contemplate that. I am an extraordinarily horny man. I drink to excess too much. I am an attorney consistently dealing with the absolute worst of humanity. I had a rape dream when I was a child. I was first sexually accosted in elementary school. A woman tried to rape and kill me as a Senior in High School. I was almost desperate to lose my virginity in college but I still wanted to “lose it” only to someone for whom I desperately cared for. I lost it to the woman who is now my wife. A woman whose physical form I find excessively pleasing. A woman for whom my love is never ending (despite myself).
I don’t rape. So… to all these assholes saying “I’m so afraid in this environment that someone will accuse me of something!!” Shut the fuck up.
STEP ONE: Don’t force yourself onto women.
STEP TWO: When a woman says stop, stop.
STEP THREE: No matter what she is wearing… no matter how bad you want it… no matter how heavily she was flirting.... there is no excuse to rape.
caramelchicken ⋅ October 09, 2018
Totally agree. I don't know why the concept of making sure you have enthusiastic consent is so hard for some people. I would also add, not sure if the person wants you to kiss them? Ask! Not sure if they're enjoying what you're doing? Ask! Etc. The people who whinge about asking someone things can fuck off. Asking someone if they want or are enjoying something doesn't "ruin the mood". I've found it lovely and reassuring the times that I've been asked if it's okay for the guy to kiss me, or take off my clothes, etc. It means they care about my enjoyment, not just getting off on what they can 'get away with'. That is such a shitty attitude to have.
stargazing ⋅ October 09, 2018
It really is quite easy. If a person says no, listen to them. Male or Female. No means no. Period.
Cathy ⋅ October 09, 2018
The problem is, Ford's story is full of holes. You complain about persons saying 'due process', but the court of public opinion is no substitute. Without 'innocent until proven guilty', we don't have a country...not one I want to live in anyway. (I am independent.)
Park Row Fallout Cathy ⋅ October 09, 2018
Which is why the most disgraceful part of all of it was the fact that the FBI was limited and rushed. AND for those that say "What is this FBI probe going to find that the previous ones didn't?" Uhm. I've been interviewed by the FBI. A number of times. For job related issues. I actually work WITH the FBI on many of my prosecutions. The kind of "background check" that is run is for (1) a criminal record; (2) debts and financial worries; and (3) any financial dealings that may create a potential Bribery/Blackmail scenario. They do not investigate sexual assault allegations that haven't been made. So, the first time they got to investigate was when Trump ordered them to. And then Trump told them not to interview "certain people" and to "get it over with quickly." That isn't "due process, investigating the truth, discovering what actually happened." That is "FBI being used as a publicity stunt to give Republicans the appearance of due diligence." That is one of the many reasons the Kavanaugh thing disgusts me. The whole thing was a sham and a disgrace from both parties and the intelligent, honorable, presidential thing to do would have been to go to the next Conservative Nominee... that way, Trump would still get his potentially Abortion Killing justice and the country could continue. The reason that didn't happen and was never going to happen was because they needed Conservative Control of the SCOTUS before Gamble v. US went to court.
Cathy ⋅ October 09, 2018
Ok, I looked up Gamble vs U.S.. I am shaking my head. So this is why we have double jeopardy. If the loophole were eliminated (it should be), and it were used the way you fear, it would also be used by the Democrats once they are in power. (But it's going to affect the average person way more often than political figures.) Both parties just need to follow the Constitution. If they don't, it's just like two dogs fighting over a scrap of meat. I've been seeing this since the 90s. Some Congressmen (for example, Schumer) would vote for unconstitutional powers when Clinton was president. Then, as soon as Bush was in office, they were voting against the same types of things he previously voted for.
Park Row Fallout Cathy ⋅ October 09, 2018
I agree. We need representatives that are adults, public servants, not self-dealing aristocrats of their own devise. The Dual Sovereignty Double Jeopardy issue is supposed to act as a check against Corruption. If the President pardons someone who defrauded the Federal Government and the State Government; it provides the State Government an opportunity to recoup their losses without making the tax payer pay the loss simply because The President Pardoned His Buddy. It isn't much of a step but it is a small step to try to stem corruption. I would love to see something bigger and less "legal trickery" to fight the rampant corruption in the Federal Government but until we have centrists back in office, I don't see that happening.