Five Minutes Fifteen Seconds in Book Five: Working Through the Maze 2018
- Oct. 6, 2018, 9:50 a.m.
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There is about an hour left of work today and I am trying to remind myself that days like today are good and important as offsets to days like Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday. I shouldn’t be upset with myself if I didn’t cram every hour of my day with work work work. I spoke with officers concerned over firearms, I spoke with a victim about her case, and I was thanked by a victim for her case. The fact that those items are your only items for the day need not feel like a waste.
I’ve been thinking about the house again. No word negative or positive… I assume we’re on track… and again, I’m not worried about the finances (seriously, if we liquidated everything our monthly mortgage costs would be $350. We aren’t going to liquidate everything. But still… our mortgage will be around 13% of my income… so not bad at all.
But I keep thinking about furniture. About what the “vision” of that space looks like. About the expense in money and expense in arguing about how things are going to look. I don’t have a “perfect vision” for the spaces but I do have ideas. Like… I’d love a pool table in the basement… to make the basement’s wet bar area a nice “dorm kitchen” set up for snacks and drinks. Have a small table in that back corner to just sit and hang and sip. Couches and chairs and a big TV along the wall for video games and movie nights… maybe a surround sound system of some kind. Then in the “den” area upstairs, just have a few chairs set up, maybe a tv, some side tables… a place to relax and chat… like a “cocktail” area since it is next to the Dining Room and Kitchen. Only other room I even have ideas about is the All Season Porch. Finally a way to use the outdoor furniture we have year round. That will be another nice area for talking, just sitting and being warm enough/cool enough but still surrounded by either the snow or sunny days. There is a lot of space with that house. And Wife and I presently do have a lot of subpar and shitty furniture and art. For our stress levels, our marriage, and our pocketbook… no massive, sudden, swift changes to things. But I do hope it doesn’t take too long to get the place to where we want it.
Then again.... carts, horses, order of operations.
First: Marriage Counseling Tomorrow
Then: Getting/Taking official ownership of the house
THEN I can worry about furniture and design decisions.
four leaf clover ⋅ October 06, 2018
Good luck with counseling. And I hope everything works out with the house!
Purple Dawn ⋅ October 06, 2018
Just do your main rooms first, the kitchen, dining and living area... the rest will fall into place :) jmo
Perpetually Plump ⋅ October 08, 2018
Have you discussed with wife what your ideal home looks like? Is she aware of your vision for your home, and has she agreed with it? One of the things boyfriend and I did when he moved into a house from an apartment is walk through each space and discuss how best to utilize it and why we thought our suggestions deserved merit. Granted, it's not my house or space, but I've lived in a lot of houses, and I spend a lot of time there, so it was cool for us to agree on the usage of space and for him to execute what we had discussed. We will most likely never move in together, but at least if we did, we know how to discuss our vision of a space!