I have a brief moment for a quick break before I’m back at it getting ready for a meeting with my boss. Tomorrow we have another super important customer coming to our office for a big meeting and I’m prepping for that as well. Life goes on. Work goes on. It’s July and I’m still here - I didn’t think I’d see this day. Yet, the 2019 budget sill hasn’t been released, so there’s still time for an axing. We’ll see.
After I sent the fire truck photo to Secret Agent Man and his subsequent answer that was all about himself, I have heard no word from him. I’m not going to pursue. He knows how to reach me (and probably even a lot more about me than I realize).
I just got a text from Ricky R. saying good morning. I don’t know how I feel about it…Fishy Ricky, as you all call him, is quite peculiar and I think I’ve lost interest. I’m annoyed by the fact that he never re-booked his canceled date and seems to be starting again from square one. Who has time or inclination? I don’t think I do.
And now there’s another. I’m going on a Bumble date tomorrow night with a guy who’s beyond excited about it and I’m simply very ‘meh’ after the last three dudes I’ve met in the past couple of weeks. He is coming on SUPER strong and we haven’t even met yet. I had to tell him to back down. He seems to have a somewhat psychotic laugh…we talked on the phone last night. We exchanged IG information. For as wildly happy as he claims to be, his IG would appear otherwise. He’s clearly not over someone as he has super sad images in his feed. It makes me nervous.
So let’s talk about Bumble, shall we? I don’t know why I’ve kind of gotten on a roll except for the fact that I seems to go in waves. Yes, this online dating stuff is a numbers game, but it seems like you have to play it if you’re single. And yes, I have gone the organic route in recent months, but sometimes you just have to get back in the ring. The interesting thing is - I’ll go off of it for a while and then come back to find a whole new batch of “eligible” bachelors. I use that term loosely, of course. Some guys are much more eligible than others.
The thing about Bumble is that the female must make the first move. That is SUPER hard for me, but I guess times have changed and women play a more aggressive role in dating now. I hate this so much and much prefer to be the one who is pursued (it is more like what nature intended, no?), but the tides have turned and I’m no fertile spring chicken anymore, so…we do what we have to do. Right?
Much later…
It’s Thursday already. I have a presentation to give today. I didn’t get to finish my entry and thoughts on making the first move, but I have a few minutes before the big customer gets to this part of the office and we have a lunch together before I go on.
So yeah, I make the first move only because I have to on Bumble…and usually it’s only because something in the guy’s profile will help me with an opening line - kind of a prompt, I guess. I will always make sure to say something clever about something in their profile because I HATE it when people just say, “hey.”
I go out of my way to make sure the other person knows that I have put thought into who they are as a person. Some people love that and others don’t even notice. I notice things like pocket squares or other accessories and let them know I love a man who can put together an advanced look or if I can figure out a location in a photo I’ll ask about that… you know, little things that others might not notice. Like I said, some appreciate, some are oblivious.
Sometimes I get a GREAT (!!!) reply - super enthusiastic and seemingly very excited that I’ve written. Other times, I get a “hey”…but most of the time it seems I get no reply. It can be very discouraging and I suppose this is what it’s like when the tables are turned and the female of the species has to move out of her comfort zone.
Regardless, it’s time-consuming and somewhat discouraging. And the problem is, I don’t know another way. The organic thing works some of the time, but you know what I’ve found? The guys are just the same whether you meeting them on an app or out in the wild. They have so many, many, MANY women to choose from that it’s like shooting fish in a barrel for them.
Anyway. Yes. I have a date tonight with an over-enthusiastic gentleman and I’m not sure I like him at all anymore after poring over his Instagram. He is full of contradictions and I’m getting a bit of a slightly cray vibe from him. He writes vague posts that smell of recent heartbreak, and I’m not excited, but I’m going to cut him some slack because I’ve been there before and I know how it feels and you just never know how a first meeting might turn out, right? Right?
We’ll see.
Breaking News:
Something interesting just happened in the office. Today is the meeting with big customer, right? And Negative C’s replacement (who’s been here a good 6 months now, she needs a name. How about Sunny D. - for Sunny Disposition because it’s true…and I love it) went to a part of the meeting where Boss did not introduce her at all and she apparently was not offered an opportunity to introduce herself.
Needless to say, she’s not pleased. In fact, the “Sunny” part dropped out pretty quickly when I asked her about that part of the meeting.
Then Loud P (a new player? Not really. He’s been around but not much to write about) chimed in and said to me, “Yeah, you know it’s noticeable how much they (Boss and Golden Boy) treat you like shit! You’ll be leading a meeting and they will interrupt you very rudely and do their buddy-buddy thing…”
And in my head I was kind of like, SOMEBODY ELSE NOTICED!! And it was a MAN who noticed!
I nearly fell over.
On the one hand, I’m so glad that it’s not all in my head and that I’m not just being “sensitive”. On the other hand, it’s fucking bullshit. I mean, I LOVE what I do and it sucks that these dudes have to walk all over my hard, hard work and take all of the credit and leave a mess in their wake.
I’m glad others see this, but I also need to do something about it.
Anyway. Need to get going for now as I have a presentation to give…
xox,
GS
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