*EDIT* When you seek help but you ramble too much in Days of My Destiny

I checked my uni emails this morning and noticed that there are phone appointments available with a Student Relationship Officer if you need help with anything. I decided I’d go ahead and book one because honestly… I’m really unfocused this year. There’s a section where you can write a bit about what’s going on, or maybe what your question is, so they can gauge the phonecall, I guess. Here’s what I wrote:

Hi,
I’m having trouble focusing this Semester. I am unsure how to prioritise my life, even though I know my schedule isn’t as busy as other people’s. I have two kids (who will be home today due to sickness). I work two days a week, and on the other three days I run the household, help my husband run his business, try to be somehow involved with my girls’ school on some weeks (ie I’ve helped out in tuckshop twice this year, and next week I am going on an excursion with my youngest daughter’s class), try to spend time with my mum who is lonely, work on my own personal development, try to exercise or do yoga (or at least stretch!) and study. I have fallen one week behind with my studies. I have semi-started one assignment but haven’t looked at the other one. They are both due a week apart in about 5 weeks. This week I have been lying in bed wondering if I should drop one course but that thought overwhelms me because I know that if I drop it, I will just have to add it later anyway. Really unfocused, overwhelmed and unsure. Help!
Thank you.

And then after I click Submit, it tells my my message is too long, that it can only be 500 characters, and mine is 1053!

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Maybe I can just write HELP and that will intrigue them?? LOL

Here’s the Exactly 500 Characters version:

I’m having trouble focusing. I work two days a week. On the other three days I run the household, help my husband run his business, try to be somehow involved with my girls’ school on some weeks, spend time with my mum who is lonely, work on my personal development, try to exercise and study. I’m one week behind with my studies. I have been lying in bed wondering if I should drop one course but that thought overwhelms me because I know that if I drop it, I will just have to add it later anyway.

No greeting, no nothing. It feels rude and abrupt. Like I just shoved my way through a full bus in the city, elbowing everyone without a second thought.

A few hours later and things are falling into some kind of place. Your comments are so encouraging and some made me literally laugh out loud (yes they did ask for it!). Thank you.

It’s crazy how much I’ve actually been writing in here, lately. I thought my prosebox days were over, precisely because life is so busy now. But I guess it’s just SO busy that I need to put my thoughts and overwhelms somewhere. Ha. Ha.

I heard from the uni. Basically my options are 1) drop a course or 2) don’t drop a course.

However if I don’t drop the course, there are support options available to me, such as the Learning Centre, which helps with all things academia, and then there’s Counsellors, to help with study/life/work/everything balance and integration. I think I will definitely need the latter. I’ve booked an appointment to talk to someone a bit further about this on Monday, because the last date to drop a course is next Friday. Talking about it further means they’ll see me face-to-face and actually sit down with me and work out a study plan, ie if I drop this course this Semester, yes I will have to add it to my studying time somewhere in the future, and they can help figure all of that out.

It is amazing that I am finally brave enough to ask for help when I need it.

33, you are the best.

Last updated March 15, 2018