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"I want to hit you in the face with these bolt cutters!" in the daily struggle

  • Feb. 10, 2018, 1:40 a.m.
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My husband said this to me out of nowhere about an hour and a half ago. He has paranoid schizophrenia and “forgot” to take his meds today. (I think he is refusing on purpose. This is something we struggle with…) I don’t know what set his brain off, but for some reason he felt I was out to get him, thus his bolt cutter remark. I chose not to react. I gave him space (and drank a glass of wine in the kitchen…) and he has since calmed down and is now sleeping. This sort of thing happens at least once a day and I’m sorry to say I do not always react calmly. When I react emotionally, it sets him off worse and can lead to several hours of violent raging. The police have been involved in the past but they are not helpful. I don’t want him arrested and that is their only solution. My solution? Continue meds and therapy for him and myself (I have bipolar disorder, as well), practice patience and compassion to the best of my ability, and pray often. I am open and welcoming of all beliefs (and non-beliefs) but I am a Christian and Jesus alone has gotten me through a lot of this. I’m very grateful he is now asleep. Now I can breathe and calm down. (My resting heart rate has been above 100 for all this time) Please do not be overly alarmed and tell me to leave my husband. As I said I also have mental illness and I see that his behavior is a symptom of his illness and not his character. I am maybe too understanding, but I knew what I was getting into when I married him. (And he puts up with a lot of my own bullshit!) I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.


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