I saw something online about strangers and whether you trust one type of strangers over another. It really got me starting to think.
I have to admit my trust levels have changed a bunch since I've had Gabriella. Some ways they are looser and some ways I'm much more 'I trust no one.' I have a grandparent with a history of sexual abuse and because of that I have left her with only her daddy and it was for perhaps 45 minutes.
I'm not sure how to go about trusting babysitters or anyone to watch her when I am not present. It is something I need to figure out when the time comes. I am grateful I haven't had to worry about it yet.
A different aspect of trust came to mind though. I trust Gabriella a lot more then her daddy does. He is always worried about germs on the floor and insisting she be away from animals, or on a blanket during tummy time. G and I went to Tia Vero's today and Gabriella was going nuts about their little dog, shrieking in excitement every time he came close. We didn't allow him to lick her or anything but I'm sure daddy would have freaked. :P
I also took her to the park today and while she was on a blanket in the shade, if the sun moved I didn't hurry to move her. I let her roll off on the grass if she wanted to. I gave her whatever bits of real food she wanted to eat including a bit of meat. When she was done with the meat she just spit it out and that was that.
If she had choked I know the necessary first aid. if she had attempted to eat some grass, so what? If she had touched the dog and gotten licked, so what? Yet when daddy's around he's determined she'll get sick or something if I don't follow the no animals/blankets on floor/etc.
I hope I will always be able to let go a little and be less of a helicopter parent then my husband because I can see it helps her enjoy life. It will only get worse/better as she gets older; playgrounds, dating, driving etc.
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