A Burst of Energy and Uncivil Society in Everyday Ramblings

  • Nov. 10, 2017, 4:56 p.m.
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It is not like I didn’t know this already but once again today I clearly understood that if I actually do whatever it is I am actively procrastinating on a great deal of energy is released and becomes available.

The studio manager asked for a picture and description of my classes about a month ago to include in marketing materials for the studio and the woo woo wellness center it is attached to. I asked him about his vision for the “Conscious Movement” studio when I met him a couple of weeks ago.

He said he didn’t have a vision, that he just wanted there to be more people interested in using the studio and a more robust online presence.

He did get me the chairs I asked for, which I happily used in class on Wednesday.

But the studio reeked of incense when we got there and it was problematic enough that I kept us pretty close to the floor where it wasn’t so intense. So I wanted to indicate that this wasn’t okay in a shared space like this. It was wet and quite cold and there was no way to vent the room.

I sent off all the requested material this morning and was feeling pretty good.

Is it just because I am getting old that it seems to me that people are behaving in public in a more uncivil way? A little more self-centered? I know I was more self-centered in my behavior when I was younger.

I received an email just before I headed out on the bus to the grocery at lunch today from Credo Action (Credo is my socially responsible phone company and has been for years) that said in the subject line, “Violence is not a product of mental illness. Violence is a product of anger.”

So I was thinking about that.

On the bus back with a regular driver who is older and very competent and almost always on time I was thinking about how quiet it was and how cool I got my favorite seat when a young man put his bike in the rack on the front of the bus and then started fussing with a whole bunch of bags he was carrying as if he was looking for his fare.

The bus driver after a few moments of waiting asked politely for him to present his fare and the young man said, “Go, just go, I am looking for it. That is what you do, you go.” But the bus driver waited and the young man started swearing and the bus driver asked him to mind his language. There were children on the bus.

I had a pretty good view of all this. The young man swore some more in response to that and the driver asked him to get off the bus. The young man started to and then he turned around and spit right into the drivers face.

It was shocking.

This wasn’t racial, by the way, everyone was Caucasian. But it was truly shocking. The driver got up and followed the young man off the bus to make sure he got his bike I think. He stayed calm. The young man swung at the driver!

He defended himself and about 5 youngish unrelated men got off the bus to assist subdue the guy. They got him off the driver, took pictures, someone tried to take a video and the young man got on his bike and rode off.

The driver was calling in the incident as we drove by him pedaling along. He gave the driver the finger as we passed by.

Then a few stops later a transit security officer showed up and we all trooped off and onto another bus. I was late getting back to work (I texted Saint Joe) but was quite happy no one was hurt. I think the driver deserves some sort of award.

The whole incident made me sad. I almost burst into tears sitting there in my favorite seat.

How did it come to this where that kind of behavior is considered acceptable enough that the young man was not afraid of the consequences of his action?

The news is so profoundly disturbing these days. Could it have something to do with our leadership? I am just sayin’.

But in the meantime if you are looking for a way to feel a bit better, might I recommend doing one manageable thing you are procrastinating on? :)


Last updated November 10, 2017


Lyn November 10, 2017

I concur that Agent Orange has made bad behavior more acceptable. Sad.

Heartening that the youngish men stepped in to help the driver.

mcbee November 11, 2017

You are exactly right in that first paragraph. Energy is derived from turning that engine on, but sometimes it's so hard to turn that key. :)
I agree that violence and hatred have become more normalized, but these last couple of weeks I've seen this shift.....it finally seems that the good people in this country are standing up and saying "no more". I actually have more optimism than I have had in a year.

edna million November 13, 2017

What a disturbing incident on the bus -- and upsetting. I saw a guy screaming at one of our university bus drivers not long ago. He was on the outside of the bus, yelling first through the door and then went around to the driver's window and yelled some more. Bizarrely, he was carrying a dog. I assumed the driver wouldn't let him on the bus with the dog. It was really strange.

I need to do exactly what you suggest about procrastinating! I am procrastinating right this minute.

Deleted user November 14, 2017

I do not think certain people’s desrespectful or abusive behavior is linked to who is president . There have always been people who are abusive, dishonest, violent , angry, and just plain evil. These situations and incidents have occurred as long as there has been recorded history. I think bad behavior has more of its origins in their level of mental health and the people who raise those people as children , that have the most effect on their behavior . I think the political climate has very little effect on most average people except economically . Few working or homeless people have the luxury or desire to even contemplate politics. This guy was probably broke and did not have the fare. Perhaps if someone had stepped up and given it to him when it was obvious he was not finding it , the incident could have been avoided. I try to be aware of those situations ( although I am never on buses but at places like the grocery store, etc...) so if someone needs help , I could possibly help. You never know what that can mean to a person who might feel desperate or humiliated.
I agree with you about procrastination and it’s such an easy trap to fall into .

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