The following is a text that I received from my sister in law. My issue is not to vaccinate vs to vaccinate. I understand her point of view and think that everyone has their own opinion. What I disagree with is her melodramatic, over the top, bullying and threatening nature of the text (and no she never called, she just sent this text). And a little background, her son is in public school and her daughter goes to preschool two days a week. Here is her text:
Ryan (her son) has a suppessed immune system. Because Ruby (my daughter) is not vaccinated, our children can no longer be around her in any way. If she were to contract a disease, it would most certainly harm or kill Ryan and potentially Sarah (her daughter). If we had known this, we would never had them anywhere near each other....Ever. We will have to coordinate our work schedules or find alternative babysitters for Ruby. This has to happen immediately. Even if vaccines are given at this point it will be a long time before our kids can ever be near each other again. No give and take in this situation which could cause grave harm to my children. My schedule for work will follow. Barry and Debbie (my husband and her husband’s parents who watch our children), you need to make sure you have had a TDAP in the past 5 years because you can get pertussis and not realize it, while infecting children.
I feel there are several things wrong with this text. One thing is after 6 years, we are just now hearing that her son has a suppressed immune system though she didn’t expand upon that idea telling us what from. We found out her son had asthma through a post on facebook. I’m a respiratory therapist and she didn’t even tell me! More background, she’s always hated my daughter. She didn’t want our in laws watching my daughter because it took attention away from her kids (who are only there one day a week vs my daughter’s three days a week). Our kids play great together, Ryan especially loves my daughter who in turn adores Ryan.
She is very much entitled to her opinion, especially given she is a nurse. However, she is vilifying my two year old daughter who only goes from our house to her grandmother’s house and vice versa. I also don’t understand how it could be years (if ever) for Ruby to ever see them again if she’s vaccinated but the grandparents can see the kids right away if they get one shot now??? And if your child is that medially fragile, why would you send him to public school???
I have unfriended her from facebook and my husband is livid. We feel it’s just the excuse she’s been waiting for to make sure my daughter never gets to see her grandparents. When Ruby was born, they called and threatened us saying they were going to lose their house if Kimmie (my sister in law) quit working. That year was also their first trip to disney world (we’ve never been). This year is their second or third trip to disney world. Again they say they will lose their house if Kimmie, who works one or two days a week part time as a nurse, quits her job. They felt that the grandmother wouldn’t be able to watch their two kids (one day a week) and my daughter if there were ever there together at the same time. Since they were there first, they feel my daughter has no right to the same free child care they have been getting for years.
I’ve already talked to the grandparents and they are rearranging their schedules so our kids are never at their house at the same time. Though from what I hear, Kimmie now is demanding that the grandmother (who already drives her daughter to and from preschool) come over to their house and watch their kids cause my unvaccinated daughter contaminated the grandparents house. My in laws never ask either side for money though we’ve offered to pay. My mother in law is afraid of never seeing my brother in law or his kids again. I understand. My brother in law Micah is her baby. He’s a wuss. He cries to his mom about how difficult living with his wife is but he’s still with her cause he’s afraid he’ll never get to see the kids if they divorced. She never comes over to holidays because she always hated this side of the family.
Anyway, I am just so angry about how this was handled. Like I said, this is not vaccinated vs unvaccinated. This to me is about respect. She clearly has none for us and she never will. I am not sorry to see her go, but I will sincerely miss her sweet children who have been my daughter’s only playmates for years.
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