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I had a fuckin stoner epiphany about that bullshit Tangy heard from his therapist concerning abusive family patterns. I am too high to elaborate but the actual thought came like a freight train, fast and powerful, one part followed by the other. So let’s hope I can get enough of this down to backtrack the meaning a little later.

Here goes: I do create these obvious cycles. How long can I fight with a person before the flight reaction becomes stronger? It’s not very long. It got longer and longer as we went on repeating the same arguments. It resembled escalation, perhaps clearly defined it. The same fight entangled more current events on top of the old ones we never resolved. The anger and tension grew stronger each time. The passion to change things shifted direction from the health of our marriage to preserving our sanity in solitarily. The cycles I recognized are emotional patterns I could feel & he couldn’t see.