So there’s this guy, right? I’ve known him for years. He’s come to parties at my place and I’ve gone to his place for a Super Bowl party or some such. He’s hung out with me and some other girlfriends kind of randomly. He dated a good friend of mine a good many years ago, but maybe just a couple of times…and she was the one who introduced us. In fact, I believe she encouraged us to go out at some point.
But we never connected. He was always in the peripheral. We’ve been Facebook friends forever and we ‘like’ each other’s photos and comments and have always been pleasant with each other and sometimes wrote to each other, but it’s never been anything.
IN FACT, I’ve even been on dates with a couple of his friends and have had conversations about him!
Truth be told, I’ve always wondered about him and have even had small crushes on him throughout the years, but again, it’s never lead to anything.
So the other day, while I was thinking about who I could possibly network with to get out of this sticky situation I’m in at work, his name popped up because he works for a company that I’ve ALWAYS wanted to work for. And by always, I mean it’s like a true fantasy of mine to work for this company. And HE. Works. There.
So, duh.
Messaged the guy on FB to see if he’d meet me out for a drink so we could talk. Of course, I didn’t tell him exactly WHY I wanted to talk with him, I just told him I wanted to catch up. I didn’t want him to think that I was just using him as a contact, you know?
So we met out at this dog-friendly dive bar (dog and I walked through a super sketch neighborhood to get there, deciding that I was going to Uber home), and he was just as pleasant as always, we had a great talk and a bunch of beers and I got good insight as to the work stuff and that now is a good time to get in at this company and yada, yada.
And we caught up on other stuff, too. I told him what’s been going on over the years…how my love life has been so crazy and my work situation and all of the other things.
He told me about what was going on in his world - how his heart was broken three years ago and how he’s disengaged from his family a bit and how he’s changed over time.
We reminisced over the great music the venue was playing. We laughed. We nearly cried.
And then it was late and I needed to go home. Of course, he’d driven (even though he lives like four blocks from the venue…it’s a funny neighborhood in that there are pockets of awesomeness inside a very seedy and kinda dangerous area - I wasn’t so smart to walk!), but he insisted on driving me home instead of Uber-ing.
And we discovered that we have the same model of car…which he flipped over because not very many people have this particular model (I had no idea - I just liked it when the dealer showed it to me - did I tell you I got a new car?). Anyway, he’s kind of a car geek. OK, a total car geek and he geeked out on that fact, and some other things that we’d shared with each other.
So as he was dropping me off at my place, he told me that we have so much in common that we really should hang out more often. And soon!
So, hm. Yeah, I felt a little glimmer of something, but that’s always how we’ve been with each other, so I didn’t think anything about it.
I wrote to him the next day on FB messenger, thanking him for the advice and the beer and grub (he’d insisted on paying even though I’d asked him to meet me), and I offered to buy him dinner/drinks next time.
His reply came very late that night. So late I didn’t get it until the following morning. And it came as a surprise: he told me that he wanted to pursue something other than friendship. The message was direct and straightforward - how refreshing! He told me that if I didn’t feel the same way that he wouldn’t put ANY pressure on me and no worries. But he wanted me to know that he thought it might be fun to check out the possibilities.
So we’ve been on a few dates! We’re taking it pretty slow. I like him a lot, but I think we are both pretty trepidatious about the whole thing. I’m not sure if that’s good or bad, but I simply love the way he is so open and forthright about things.
Last Saturday night, before taking my hand, he asked me if I liked affection from a guy, and my whole body almost exploded! I mean, the last guy I saw wouldn’t even shake my fucking HAND, let alone do anything affectionate - ever! So I was thrilled to hold hands with him. How simple, yet how lovely to have someone ask.
Then again, when I invited him up to my apartment so we could take the dog out, he didn’t ask to kiss me in the elevator - he just seized the moment while I simply melted from his insanely sexy kisses. Talk about weak in the knees!
Of course, now that I know he likes me, I’m nervous and timid, and I am doing my best to break out of that mode because I know it’s not my best personality trait. I think one of the reasons people like me is because I can be a little bit like a loose cannon with expressing exactly what I’m thinking. I don’t want to be reserved, but I am.
Anyway, he’s been under the weather the last few days, so he postponed our date this weekend to today, Sunday. I offered to bring him some juice and soup yesterday, and he said yes, come on over. But when I asked if it was OK to bring the dog because I was headed to the office and I was going to bring her to work, he said let’s hold off until today.
So. There we are right now. I am cautiously optimistic about this. I’m not holding my breath, but I’m not looking at Tinder right now, if that tells you anything.
Let’s see what today brings!
XO,
GS
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