Bonus Children in Plan B

The reason I use “bonus” is because cinderella screwed it up for all of us bonus parents. To me personally “step” sounds beneth. So that is where that lil word came from.
I met a man 1,000 years ago ( it feels that way now ) and he has 2 children. Girls. Chelsea and Lauren. Chelsea was an over acheiever and succeeded in so many ways. Lauren is talented and it took her longer to mature because she was with her mom longer. Chelsea came to live with us sooner because her mom is a basket case. 5 marriages now and one was to her cousin. Ya. The only deal I made with them was you come and live but you can not do the back and forth thing. No. We have already been thru police escorts for the holidays. Ya, 2 police cruisers on christmas day just to pick them up. Fucked up every holiday we have ever had except one. We went to Key West for 2 weeks over christmas once. Best. Gift. Ever. Without the kids and no drama from the mama.
We were together for 13 years. Ya. Alot of drama alot of issues. To make a long story short I bailed. We never married. Thank Gawd. Now fast forward ~~~~ He moves here to where I live via a boat and got married. Never told me that. I went to our local townie convientant store that sells everything to get a bottle of “Mad Housewife” wine and guess who was standing outside holding a suit case of beer? Ta- Da! Things never change. We talked for a few minutes ( this was before buying the house crap and being laid off yadayadayada) and of course I told how beautiful my life was ect. and here he is asking me questions. He asked about my dog…he goes “Do you have a brown dog”? Here he was watching me…and I didn’t know it. He was married and I didn’t know it. He told me he worked for a car dealership as a salesman. So on monday I called him at the dealership and asked him why not go out to lunch and catch up…no I can’t. Well how about wed. no. well you name the day…wellllllllll I can’t. Why? I’m married. Well why in the hell didn’t you mention it the night I seen you. Then I had a a-ha moment. I seen this chick getting in and out of the car over and over. I had no idea it was her. Why didn’t he introduce me to her? If I had a boy friend at that time I would have said look here’s Frank and he is my boy friend. But at that time I didn’t and still don’t but that is another story.
Now this comes to last night. With all this transgender now going on it is the new catch phrase. Well I knew Chelsea was gay but I didn’t know she was transgender at that time. I did look at her f/b page and she is now a man with a male name living out of the state of FL. thank gawd. We are so red kneck down here I would be afraid for her. For reals. But now when I seen her - it is no longer her at all. She got a complete sex do over. No more breasts no more soft face no more Chelsea. I haven’t been in these girls lives in so long but there is a small part of me that would love to reach out to Chelsea and tell her how proud of her I am but I won’t. Face book dosn’t mean you have to reach out and touch everyone. But now she is an att. for equal rights for transgender people. I am so proud of her. Lauren is a hair stylist. She is married and has a daughter. So both girls turned out amazing concidering all the shit they went thru. I just wonder how the rest of the family took to all of this. They have a grandma who hates gays ( there going to hell and burn forever ) blacks, all animals - all - and yet she is the biggest bible thumper you have ever seen. Gives loads of $ to those tv 700 club crap and calls “them” her “family” ya. I had to put up with alot. I don’t know how in the hell it lasted 13 years. Really really don’t.
So there is just a tiny snipet of my life. More will come out. It’s kind of like sometimes an emotional throw up. It dosn’t hurt to go back because all is forgiven but still when you look back you loose 3 seconds. That is alot when your competing to move ahead. I have. But still.