I had some well thought out entry to write about my son, and myself, and how being 20 living at your parents and etc etc.
Of course I can’t remember now. But basically I remember being 20 and living at my parents. I was made to feel like a burden, I didn’t have a car, so i was walking everywhere trying to apply for jobs, no online jobs and applying back in 2000. My step mom and dad made sure I knew that I was unwelcome and that I should move out. Being 18 and out of high school etc etc.
No help was offered, just room and board and sometimes meals. But i was only allowed to eat after they had ate and had their fill.
Seth on the other hand, i’m paying for his college, all his bills and told him not to get a job. I did ask that he empty the dishwasher and load it once a day. Before I get home from work at 5 pm.
So far I’ve had to remind him several times about doing this, and I’ve asked him if he thinks this is ‘too much’ to ask him. Currently he finished the semester, I had to have him take a semester off since I couldn’t pay for his college, and our move to a new place and it all ended up being around the same time. So he’s home. Sleeps till 2 or 3 pm and gets very shitty when we ask him to take out the trash, that’s the other chore, take out the trash on wed night so thursday morning it’s ready for trash guys who show up between 7 am and 7 pm.
I don’t hate him, i’m not mad, I just don’t get it. When I was living ‘rent free’ i did all the cleaning and cooking in the house. Yet my parents still made me feel unwelcome. Seth is asked to do 1 thing, maybe 2. Total time takes like 20 minutes from his ‘very’ busy day.
Shrug I guess nothing changes as time goes on, just people will be people. I just feel like I’m not nearly as strict or unhelpful as my parents were, maybe that’s the problem. I don’t want to be like them and now he’s so used to being given everything that he refuses to do anything because, well someone else has always taken care of it.
Maybe a failing on me for not being as strict as my parents. I dunno.
I do know his stepdad paid off his new car, told him that he can pay it ‘whenever’
2 months later he’s mad seth won’t get a job so he can pay him back. So seth is going to move back to his mom’s for a few months, possibly get a job and all of it will go to his stepdad. Instead of him having money for himself for the summer.
Eh. Such is life, no?
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