......... Because my life is so full.
That just came to me that I am missing people opportunities.
And not as in regarding friendship and fellowship but maybe in way of thoughtfulness.
My Life at age almost 68 is socially active. And I Love it!
I watched my Mom slowly become a hermit. Not driving was a huge factor that led to being a hermit. And then all her friends dying before her was another. So she had zero way to make anymore friends and socialize with people, but also she was never was much of a social person either. For the longest time… she was content. It wasn’t until she hit 90 that she started voicing that she was lonely.
ME.... I never understood how she could be so isolated and content. To me Socialization and lots of it is important for my well being. Another thing between her and I are our Self-Confidence. There is this one particular program that she could have been a part of. Her mother went to it (although she sat alone and read). It was at a Senior Center and the Bus would come to the house and pick one up. I suggested to my Mom and she declined saying they would judge her. And the truth be known.... even at a Senior Center you ARE judged by some to begin with. ( I KNOW THIS.. I watch it happen often).. A person just has to press forward and let them get to know you and you them. That is not who my Mom was, so she decline going.
Anyway this is not about my Mom but a comparison… I hope to be ninety and still going strong hanging at the Senior Center and maybe even Bowling. I plan have loads of different degrees of Friendship until I die. I do not ever intend to be lonely.
But in the process of being out of the house 40 hours a week doing an array of things.. I am then in the house doing an array of things.. All wrapped up in ME and my Family that I miss opportunities.
SUCH AS My Friend who I attend BSF with broke her ankle in the beginning of December. I didn’t see her again until mid January. (She lives about 20 miles from me in the mountains somewhere. I have been there once in 2018).
- She said that one woman from Church sent her 2 cards a week. Another woman called her every day. And she got various other cards… She said it was nice to be remembered. And it was encouraging........................ I emailed her a few times. But I never sent any cards. And I don’t make Phone Calls.
- Another woman in the Bible Study had Back Surgery in February and has not left the house except for DR appointments.... I hear people have called her and sent cards. And they have reported to the Bible Study how she is doing.... I haven’t sent any cards or called.
- Another Woman in the Study (for a season, we were close but then drifted apart).. Had Hip Surgery a month ago. She didn’t want meals or anyone visiting (as did the other woman). We all have heard how well she is doing. And people have called and texted and send Cards. I have done none of those things..
And not that I didn’t want to, It just didn’t occur to me because we were getting feedback of how the ladies were doing. And well Life for me just fly’s by and before I know it, months have gone by.
And then there are Birthday’s.. I miss so many of those of people I associate with.
I see all this as Missed Opportunities.
I just feel a conviction that I NEED to make Card giving important again as it was before 1996. And I NEED to carve time in my week to ensure I make it important.
So that is my thoughts for this week.
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