I have heard of the #singlemarriedmom. I didn’t know what that was until I saw videos on it and read about it. I think that fits me. I won’t say that its all my husband’s fault for the place that we are at in our marriage. I am adult enough to admit my own faults. That being said, my husband though good in almost all other aspects, sucks at helping out at home. He does no, count them, no chores. He takes out the trash, sure. He’ll help me unload the groceries, sure. Does he wash a plate? No. Does he put away his laundry? No. Oh, he knows enough to put it in the machine and hit a few buttons, but God forbid he actually put away what he washes.
That was part rant and part laying down the context. So that being said, you all can see that house chores alone is a lot on your plate. I have two kids. One 7 and one 4. My 7 year old today was asking repeatedly to go to the park because he wants to do something fun and he hasn’t been out all day. To give more context, the husband has never, NEVER taken the kids to the park by himself, gone out to the store with both of them, nothing. Nada. I take both of them everywhere with me. But unless I am there, he doesn’t take them anywhere. They’ll stay at the house all damn day when I am at work. (I work 12s, 3 days a week.)
So my son caught me at a time when I was doing chores, with no help, and asking me over and over again to go to the park. What is the husband doing? Playing video games. He’s kinda moody. Whatever. So I tell me son, and I acknowledge to him that he’s too young for me to be telling him this, but I ask him, “Look around. When has your father washed a dish or helped me at all? I have these chores to do, and on top of that no one is helping me and you want to go to the park. I am sorry, but at this moment, I can’t.”
So my question is, does any one else out there have this situation and then feel mom guilt for not being able to take them out, knowing full well their fucking father for God’s sake, won’t? I felt so overwhelmed. I had mom guilt going for not being able to take them out, anger and resentment for this not being the first time, and helplessness. Like damn…Anyone else feel this way? Even one person?
Please let me know. This is not about man bashing. I can care less about that. This is about me knowing I’m not the only one. “Have you talked to your husband about this?” is probably a question that you are asking. Yes, yes I have. Repeatedly. I have prayed for years about this. I am a devout Christian woman, but let me tell you, lighting a candle and rolling the dice on some other fake deity is looking pretty good right now. Like hey, you’re fake and everything, but on the off chance that you’re not, can you give this guy a kick in the ass to wake up and realize his children and pretty freaking amazing and to spend time with them? Much appreciated. Thanks.
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