We returned to the surgeon on Friday.
The news was great! NO CANCER!
Debbie wants a hysterectomy and wants it now, but he wants to wait for another 6 weeks to see how the ulcerated area looks. He tried calming and telling her that there is no rush since there is no reason by pathology to do it right now. She in turn has the criteria from her insurance and she feels she meets it.
I do not want her rushing head long into this. She wants an abdominal surgery, versus the Doctor wanting to do it transvaginally. His choice will mean a quicker recovery and no large incision. She is aruging that open will make sure everything is gotten and seen. She still is sure that she has cancer. I swear she almost seemed disappointed and suprised that no cancerous tissue was found. She had a look of disbelief on her face. She is sure she has it growing in her.
This has been very hard on us, hell no, on me.
Am I selfish for wanting her to have a proceedure requiring less recovery time? Am I selfish for wanting her to slow down in having surgery? I am at a loss.
And again she is talking about using the recovery time, time off from work to take a cruise vacation.
I think it insane to be at sea or in a foreign land just after surgery, plus there will be follow up appointments and can you imagine telling them that you will not be able to make it because you will be on vacation?
The drive will be maddening, as she will have to lay in the back floor of the truck. Once on board there will be no swimming, no shore excursions, no swimming on the beach. The trip will be only rest, sleep, healing. Why do that at a cost of thousands when it can be achieved here at home? Again, am I selfish?
I am at a loss over all this.
But I am happy that there is no cancer!
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