My favorite niece needs help. in The Big, Blue House, year one.
- Oct. 14, 2022, 6:39 a.m.
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She has delusional bipolar, like her father, my half brother. I don’t know a lot about it, beyond the problems he has that our mother described to me, and what I saw of it when he came to visit when my father was dying.
My aunt was schizophrenic, and it reminds me of that, just more generalized. Rather than hallucinations, they get fantastical, sometimes scary ideas.
He’s been on SSI since about 2000. Prior to that he worked, but he drank a lot, and he was violent with his family. Eventually wife #2 left him, he tried to OD on pills in the woods, was found and hospitalized, and then applied for SSI. He was missing for two days before the authorities found him passed out by a tree.
Now he’s said niece’s best friend. They understand each other. She also drinks a lot, but until recently, has held a job.
The last conversation I had with her was a few months ago, when she thought the ghost of her then-boyfriend’s dead ex-wife was possessing her, and causing her mood swings. I told her to make herself an unwelcoming vessel. Don’t drink. Stay clean and calm. (What else do you do in a situation like that?! 0_o)
She can’t afford a psychiatrist, or any kind of help.
Now, as of a few days ago, her facebook has gotten slightly alarming. She says someone is “f***ing with” her, but she doesn’t know who, or why, and she wishes they’d come forward.
In other posts she talks about leaving her job, and her boyfriend, and moving in with a relative she hasn’t seen in years.
She’s convinced almost everyone is against her, and unseen forces are trying to hurt her.
Obviously I want to try to help her, but what could I do? I tried to get her to come here when we first bough this house, but Don and I are both in vulnerable categories for covid, and she doesn’t trust the vaccines. She believes the conspiracies. She’s had covid at least five times that I know of. Then she was mad at me for “not helping her”.
She needs psychiatric care, before she hurts herself or someone else.
All I can do is scream into the void.
Deleted user ⋅ October 14, 2022
Put her FB on friends only. Logical to do. Or delete the fucker.
I think to get help all someone has to say is they ar suicidal. Worked for me! ;-)
Asenath Waite Deleted user ⋅ October 14, 2022
I can't delete her, I have this irrational attachment because we were kids together. She was nice to me when we were both in grade school, at a time when I was being bullied incessantly. And when we were homeless, she sent me money for food. I know she is, and has always been, an altruistic person.
Her issues are neurological, so I can't exactly blame her for them. I of all people should be able to sympathize with an unruly brain.
She's not suicidal. She's not aware that she's delusional. From her perspective, no one wants to be her friend or boyfriend for long, because they're all horrible people. Everyone talks about her, excludes her, and treats her like a crazy person, and to her that means that she can't trust anybody, and has very few friends. She sees it as her versus the world. It's not even on her radar that the problem might be her brain.
She knows she needs a therapist, and antidepressants. I was hoping she'd get to see one, and said hypothetical therapist would see the issue and send her to a psychiatrist.