So if you’ve read any of my previous entries, I’m sorry… I just get on here to vent and maybe get some advice from it.. but if you’ve seen any of my posts you know I have some issues with my in laws, which is causing problems with my husband..
here’s some info: my in laws live 3 hours from here, my parents live a mile down the road.. my husband told me in the beginning that I needed to rely on him now and not my parents so I have tried to do that.. if something is wrong I call him first, if my mom is trying to make plans I wait and call him before committing, etc..
My husband has been relying on his mom a lot… (for example my dog had pups, I had researched and know exactly what to do, but when it happened my husband called his mom to ask her opinions before even telling me) he calls her about everything, and he tells her every detail and tells he things before he even tells me… (he was thinking about changing jobs and told her before we could discuss it… I’ve tried to tell him to stop relying on her so much but he tells me that he can’t rely on her cause she don’t live here and that I’m the one that relies on my family because they live closer..
Also I have some health problems so I get sick more often then normal… I also have bad headaches (where I can’t comprehend things or tolerate noise - I just need to try to sleep it off with an ice pack because I get a fever) my MIL and SIL are convinced that every time I’m sick I’m just faking… I’ve had one of the bad headaches at their house and my MIL griped that I was hiding in the bedroom and not being friendly and that they didn’t have enough ice for me to keep refilling my ice pack… if I am at home sick and my husband tells them - they never check on me or anything..
my questions for the day are:
I tell my husband that he relies on his family more than I rely on mine (because he calls them) but he says it’s not possible for him to rely on his family because they live far away… is he right? And should I keep fighting with this or let it go? (Pick and choose your battles)
My other question is I was telling my husband how his parents don’t really care for me that much (when I’m sick, etc.) (when I have been sick at their house, they just gripe) he says that they can’t really care for me cause they live far away.. and that my parents don’t care for him either (although when my husband has been sick my parents come bring him soup and text to check on him multiple times a day) is it true that they can’t care from far away? I just don’t know if this is something I should let go?
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