To have kids? in Life Lessons

So me and my husband want to have kids eventually.
His mom and sister are complete pills and act like they don’t like me at all. All they ever talk to me about is us having kids because they want us to have a baby.
My sister in law thinks it’s ok to suffocate a baby if it’s crying because it annoys her..
My mother in law is super rude to me and barely talks to me when we go visit them, never checks on me when I’m sick (she just tells my husband that I’m faking it).
They are rude to me when my husband is not around, when he is around they just ignore me and act like I’m not there. My husband has tried talking to them about it and all they do is deny it and his mom told him that I just don’t like them and don’t want to associate with them and I’m just so rude to them.
My husband and his dad have a super good close relationship - my husband has talked to him about them being rude and he says he knows they are acting this way but they won’t listen to him either.
His mom has told my husband on multiple occasions how she hates him, how she wishes he wasn’t her son, how he’s an awful person, etc.
Anyways his mom and sister are all the time trying to tell me and my husband that we need to have a kid. But then they treat me like dirt. The way they act towards me honestly makes me not want to have a kid at all.. I just don’t know what to do about it.. it’s hard for me to even want them in my kids’ life when they are jerks and treat me like trash. any experience or advice with this situation?

Last updated August 06, 2021