Looking for advice! in Life Lessons

Recently me and my husband had an important conversation…
Background info:
We have been married 7 months, have no plans to have kids anytime soon but want them later, when we do have a kid it with be the first grand any for my parents and his parents, my family lives 5 minutes from us, his family lives 2 and a half hours.
We had a discussion about when we have kids - neither of us have been involved in someone actually giving birth, just been around after.
His mom and sister are so pushy about us having kids and anytime I see them they ask when we are going to start trying… it’s very annoying and inappropriate.. they have also said that when I get big and pregnant they will tell me if I look fat or if I’m eating too much..
so me and my husband have talked about when we do plan to have a kid what that will look like when it’s time to give birth. I have made it clear I want him and my mom in there, (he’s not a huge fan of my mom, so he’s trying to talk me out of her being there) but not a lot of people! I’m not there to give everyone a show! Me and his mom seem to butt heads and don’t have much in common, he says he wants her to be in there too… he thinks she should move in with us the week before my due date so she don’t miss anything. I told him I don’t want her here, and he argues that she should be one of the first people to hold the baby and thinks she needs to be there..
Is that normal? Am I being rude by not wanting her there? There’s no reason she should move in for close to a month right? Am I a jerk for wanting my mom and not his?