Asking him to leave in Juggling with Hedgehogs

I've sent him an email. It's my fail-safe method of communication when I'm so angry I can barely speak. I've asked him to first of all move out of our bedroom and into my daughter's old room. That's a start. I've told him we need to basically avoid each other as much as possible until such time as he can move out. I've told him I'd like him to move out as soon as possible, and to provide me with settlement figures on loans, instructions about the various household items that need to be set, reset and generally fixed from time to time, and that when he does eventually move out and we officially separate I want no further contact whatsoever.

How he will react to that is anybody's guess, but at least I've made a decision, and it honestly feels like lancing a boil.

Living with him this past couple of weeks has been intolerable. His eating habits are disgusting - he makes SO much noise when he eats, it actually makes me heave. His breath stinks (he has gum disease and won't go to the dentist), he belches and farts loudly, and although in the past I mostly ignored all that, I'm now finding it just hideous and I want the house to myself. I'm seeing him as a very unattractive person to be around, and whilst this could just be my own anger and rejection at work, it's certainly helping me to detach.

The sooner he's gone, the better. The less I see of him, the better. I just want to get on with my own life now, heal myself, build a new 'pattern' to how I spend my time, make new friends and move on.

How I do that I really don't know, in terms of finances and practicalities, but I suppose it'll just have to be one day at a time. I have good friends supporting me, and close family to run to when I need that. I just have to be good to me.