This will be a long update because I want to try to remember every detail of getting married. Feel free to skip if you aren't interested! This is mostly for me to remember how everything went!!
Let's start with Tuesday night because that is when I went to Connecticut to start getting things ready. I left work and stopped by the house of the woman who was altering my dress to pick it up. It looks perfect. She had steamed it and put a little sewing kit in the bag so that I could do any last minute repairs (thankfully because we did need some safety pins for the bustle!). The dress lady was AMAZING. She took in 9 inches to make it fit, took it up an inch, and did the bustle and only charged me $85. That night we got a couple of things done and I ended up not getting a very good nights sleep. Sal's phone was off and I was getting worried about him and then needed him to look for a couple of things at the house. He finally called me at like 11:45 so I was able to fall asleep after that but then was awake at 5:15 the next morning. My mind was just racing trying to remember everything that needed to be done.
Wednesday we got up and tried to go to my friends bakery to get cookies to put in the welcome bags. I had forgotten that it was closed on Wednesday's though so that was a waste of time. We went to the florist to drop off the vases for the flowers. While we were there we bought some chips, granola bars, and things like that for the welcome bags. We ran a couple of more errands and then met Sal at the Town Hall to get the marriage license. After that we headed to the hotel to meet with Gail (the coordinator) to go over final things, numbers, seating, all that. We dropped off a bunch of stuff to her and my Mom paid the balance. After that we split from my Mom and Sal and I went to Panera to grab some lunch and then to Old Navy to hope that they had a last set of flip flops for Morgan that they never shipped me. Sal needed a belt at Kohls too. While we were in Kohls I got a call from my Mom that my sisters dress was in with less than 48 hours to alter it before the wedding so we headed over there to see how much needed to be taken up. Turns out it was going to be too much work for my Mom because of the different layers so my Mom and I brought it over to the Cleaners to beg them to do the alterations in 24 hours AND they did! After that I headed back to my Moms for a minute and then left for my hair appointment. I got some highlights added and a quick trim to the bottom. My parents go to the same hair dresser and had an appointment so we met them there too. After my appointment Sal and I stopped and got a quick dinner at the Pizza place that was on the way home. It was yummy! That evening I wrote my Thank you cards for my girls and we just hung out. My parents friends had come in from California so it was really nice to meet them. They came over for dinner with my parents so we socialized a bit. I think we went to bed around 10:30 that night which was good because I did not get much sleep the night before.
Thursday I think we woke up around 6:30. The cleaning ladies were coming to my Moms house so we needed to have all of our wedding crap picked up and out of their way so that they could clean. When they got there we headed out to run errands. We went to Dunkin Donuts for breakfast and then to pick the cookies up at the bakery that we were not able to pick up the day before. From there we went to the hotel to drop off the rest of the stuff that we had and organize that. After that I got in a quick little argument with my Mom. I know we were both stressed out and tired and it just happened. I was annoyed with my hairdresser and she was telling me not to sweat the small stuff, but I wanted to. My hair dresser originally said she was going to show up at 3 to do our hair (there were 5 of us). I said I didnt think that would be nearly enough time and I wanted to get dressed at 5 so that we could start taking pictures and things. She said something along the lines of well, the wedding wont go on without you. If you arent ready nothing will happen. Well, I did not want to plan on running late and that pissed me off. Turns out I was right. She ended up coming earlier, like 2:15-2:30 and we still werent ready in what I would consider enough time. So I was saying that I was annoyed with Deb and she was telling me to let it go....I didnt want to hear that. I ended up leaving in tears but we were both fine right away. I went to my sisters house and picked up her and the girls for nails. She and I got manis and pedis and the girls just got manis. The blue that I got on my toes matches the girls dresses, its so pretty. Then I got a french on my fingers. It was very relaxing. After that I dont really think we did much...she had to run out to the store so I went back to my Moms house to get everything ready to go over to the hotel. I packed up my car and headed over with Sal. We chilled in the room and visited with Anne and Adrian a little bit, then Morgan and JP, then Sydney, Sherry, and Gretchen. After that we got ready for the rehearsal and headed downstairs. The rehearsal was great. I was annoyed because Michelle was about 20+ mins late and my brother was about 1/2 hour late. Once they got there we got started and everything went off well. There were no complaints and everything was quick and easy. I hadn' t figured out the order that people were walking yet so I had to do that last minute. It ended up being Hailey, Aidan, and Liv. Heather and Jamie. Becky and Brian. Sydney and Adrian. Jimmy with Michelle and Morgan. After that we headed to Becky's for the dinner. It was perfect. A good amount of people and a good amount of food. I think everyone enjoyed themselves and it was nice and low key. Heather and Jamie did not stick around too long which I expected, how long can you stick around at a party when its already 7:30 at night, you have a 2 year old, and you gave birth 5 days ago! We hung out and chatted until maybe 10:30 or so, I dont really remember. Then Sal headed back to my parents house and I went to the hotel with Sydney, Morgan and JP. I did NOT get much sleep that night at ALL. I kept having anxiety and freaking out as I would calm down and fall asleep for 10-20 mins and then re-do. I dont know that I could really pinpoint what exactly was freaking me out. I kept thinking about how huge of a life event this is and that I was a grown up now. Then I kept freaking out about my parents "giving me away." It was a long night. I think I finally fell asleep around 3:30 to wake up around 7. Oh well, I think that is to be expected the night before your wedding.
Wedding morning!!!!! As I just said I was up around 7! I layed in bed for a few and chatted with Sydney before we headed to the lobby to get her some coffee. I had some orange juice and a mini muffin then she went to the gym and I headed up to the room to shower. My phone was already blowing up with texts so as I was getting ready I responded to those and packed my stuff upa bit to move across to the bridal suite. Morgan came down just before 9 and we moved all of my stuff over before meeting up with Sydney and leaving for our hair appointment. We stopped for Dunkin Donuts on the way. I think we got to the salon at 2 minutes before 10 and Michelle had already started to get her hair done. I just hung out with them for a while while they got their hair done. I think Heather came around 10:45 (she was nursing James). I snuggled with him while she got her hair done. We got back to the hotel just before 1 and my Mom and sister were there about the same time. We ordered some chicken salad sandwiches and chips for lunch and got started on makeup. Deb for hair showed up around 2:15 maybe. Everything was perfect. It was low key for a while, I just hung out and chatted with people and stuff. I got my hair and make up done and as I expected, it was not enough time for hair. I didnt LOVE the way my hair came out. It was fine but the curls did not last and the cross in the back did not look as I wanted. OH WELL! This is what I wanted. media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/05/01/cf/0501cf1b158df82ff94e79a980cf3fbd.jpg
I don't think I got my dress on until like 5:45 and we had to take some pics before the ceremony. The other issue is that people were gathering in the lobby which was right below my room. So, I had to have people directed outside before I could leave my room because I didnt want everyone to see me. At one point I was standing outside taking pics with the girls and Sal and the boys walked by. I RAN. They didnt even see me and were directed outside after that! Everything else was PERFECT! Nobody tripped down the aisle. I was so in the moment that I didnt even realize how long the aisle was. And, Sal cried through the entire ceremony. He kept saying he was so happy and that I looked so beautiful. I wish I had spent more time taking pictures but I really just wanted to party. Once it got to 7:30 (the ceremony started at 6), I really just wanted to do introductions and get started with the party. Introductions and the first dance were great. Lily came over to dance with us part was through the first dance which Heather and Jamie felt bad about but I was TOTALLY fine with. Hopefully the photographer got a cute pic of us kissing or something. After that I tried to make the rounds to see everyone. Sal had more trouble with that one because he wanted to stop and talk for longer. I was trying to be more efficient and make the rounds to see everyone ASAP so that I could get on the dance floor. I made sure to have a couple of bites of food for dinner so that I wouldnt get dizzy and spent the rest of the night partying and dancing. I think around 10 we did some more pics in the lobby and then did the Father Daughter and Mother Daughter dances. I didnt cry like I thought I would....I mean I did cry during the dance with mY mom but not like I thought I would. Everything was so surreal.... Heather and Lily left just before 10 too...not too shabby for 6 days post baby. After that I watched people get more and more drunk and danced the night away. I think Michelle left around 11. My brother Rob was wasted as was my sister. It was just so much fun. Everything was perfect. It was wonderful to see everyone and just so much fun. It was honestly the best wedding I have ever been to. Heather and Jamie both made amazing speeches. Heather's was really sweet. It made me laugh and made me cry all at the same time. She talked about how her father said that world would be a better place with more people like me. She brought up some memories from the past but didnt go in to stories just said a few words, which made me laugh HYSTERICALLY. She really is the best friend ever. I think she may email me the speech and if she does I will probably post an entry. The party ended around 11:30 and we headed a couple of doors down to the bar area to continue the party. The wedding that was going to be the next night was there too so I chatted with the bride a little bit. I hung out with my Mom, sherry and Gretchen for a little bit (but then they went to bed because Sherry was wasted), Sydney, Morgan and JP, My uncles Doug and Pat for a little bit (Doug was also wasted) and cousins Jennifer, Corey, and Matt, and then Jenna and Bob, Katelyn and Mark, and Meghan and Nicole and Juan and Jamie. It was really nice. The pub closed around 1:30 and we went to the lobby to continue talking and laughing. There were a lot of drunk people involved in the evening. It was so much fun. The only shitty part of the evening is that Sal's two sisters who complained about where the wedding was and how far it was but then said they were coming did not show up. I was not completely surprised but he was so hurt that he went so far to try to include them and then they said they were coming and LIED. First of all it was the ONLY family of his that was going to be there, second of all, they wasted $250 of my Moms money....like flushed down the toilet. I have lost all respect for them and I wont talk to them again. This, along with exhaustion and drunkenness hit Sal around 2-2:30 Am and he got really mad and upset. He cried. We decided that was a good time to end things and my Mom and cousin came back with us to the room to get me out of my dress. I got him in the shower and talked to him about how perfect the night was and how he was part of my family now. Forget his family, every one of them. I think I fell asleep around 3:30 and woke up at 6. I was wide awake at that point and soooo sad that the night was over so I couldnt fall back to sleep but I knew that would not be enough sleep. Eventually I went to the other side of the room and slept on the little sofa for about an hour. We got up at 8:30, opened our gifts and cleaned up and left a little after 10.
Saturday my parents had a brunch at their house. It was most of the bridal party and then my out of town family. My uncle Jimmy and Aunt Pat came up from Virginia and Florida. I hadnt seen them in 20+ years so that was REALLY nice. I got some time to chat with them as well as a few other friends and family members. We had a lot of hung over people that morning. Sal was pretty hung over. My brother Rob and Sister Becky were a mess. Jamie was also a wreck. I think at the pub the night before he had told me that he had 15 beers. Thats probably more than he has had in at least 7 years. He was sooo wasted and so funny! The brunch was beautiful. It was simple and wonderful to just spend time with people and not let the wedding end yet. I think we finally left my Moms house a little after 4. I was having such a hard time with it being over. Almost 2 years of planning and it was done already. Lots of tears on Saturday. Overall, everything was perfect. I am so happy with the way the wedding turned out. My Mom even said to me last night on the phone that I planned a perfect party...I said, no, we did! I bought stuff for smores so people had those out by the fire pit at night.
Alright, that is enough for today. I m sure that I will add more as I remember details. It was such a perfect day that I dont want to forget anything!
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