I got a mutual match last week. Nice guy. Funny. Single dad. Son lives pretty far away so he keeps himself busy with work. Taking care of his mother after his dad suddenly passed away a few years ago.
I liked him.
He doesn’t live too far away, maybe 20 mins. He lived closer before he moved into his mom’s house. I travel in his direction often and he does mine. This could work out.
6’3”… green eyes. Bald head with a goatee. He was cute. I like bigger guys. I’m tall and curvy. I like to be able to wear heels without feeling like a giant.
We go back and forth for a few days on the dating app without any pressures to move forward. It was nice.
Fast forward to this weekend. We chatted in the morning about our plans for the day. He had a party at a cousin’s… I had a pool party with family and friends. I went on with my day. Came home that night… skin red as a tomato from too much sun. I start settling down and put my daughter to bed.
I get a message asking what I’m doing. Told him I’m just getting in. We flirt a little bit and he tells me that he had a great time that day. He tells me that he’s really into me and asked me what am I looking to get out of all of this. I explained that I’m trying to figure it all out myself. He sends me his phone number and asks that I call him. I told him that I had a few more things to do to get settled before I can chat. So he said to text him.
So after like 20 mins, I text him and he calls right away. He was very excited to talk to me. He admitted that he was drinking that day. I could definitely tell. He wasn’t drunk, but very relaxed and chatty. We started with small talk. Then moved on to some flirty chat. Nothing major. But then he went on to tell me that every time he looks at my pictures, he gets excited. He told me that he hopes I can handle a big D because he can’t shrink it. LOL!! That was kind of funny. He also told me that he wants to take me to “Pound town”. I’m sure you can figure out what that means.
I laughed. He wasn’t being serious about anything he was a jokester. He wasn’t trying to initiate phone sex or anything like that. (I don’t think I’d be able to do something like that.. too shy)
So anyways… we chatted on the phone for maybe two hours. He had work in the morning. So, we said goodbye. He texted me like 5 mins later that he’s glad we talked. I said that was too. And then.... he dropped a bomb on me.
“So… I really like you. Your personality is awesome. I think you’re really cool. But I have to tell you about something that I’m involved in during my free time..... I’m part of a group… ya know.. the kind that wears white hoods....”
WHAT THE FUCK???
Yeah.... that’s for real. I was in shock. I felt like I wanted to vomit. I asked him a couple questions about it just out of curiosity. I couldn’t understand how the guy that I was talking to is mixed up with such hate. I told him that I had to go to sleep and left it at that. I unmatched him that next morning. I haven’t heard anything since. Hopefully it stays that way.
Back to square one!
I’m thinking about taking a break from this online dating. Feeling pretty discouraged.