ChillLawyer in TheIntrovertedSocialButterfly’s non existent dating life

“I just have to tell you that you are the best looking woman on this site. I know I don’t live nearby but seeing you on my screen I was like WOW”
Hmm.... ok. Sure…
I looked at his profile. Cute in a suit.. 40 y/o.. DC attorney.... $$$$… recently separated. Yeah, not really what I’m looking for. Not interested in a LDR. That’s like 4 hrs away.
I decided to respond to him anyway. Just to see what he’s all about. We chatted during work for most of the day. Talked politics, music, tv… we had a lot in common. He’s really smart. Harvard. Pretty intimidating. I’m not sure why he is interested in me. A small town girl far away from him. After a while I began to realize there was something off. He didn’t really tell me much in the beginning but I was starting to wonder if he was actually divorced. So, I asked. He said that technically he is still married. AND he’s still living with his wife. He told her he wants a divorce, but they have to work out a lot of financial stuff and he doesn’t want to spend money on an apartment when he has a big house that he’s paying for. So for now he’s living in the basement…
UGH...........
Ok… I really wasn’t that upset. It wasn’t like I had developed any feelings for him. I knew nothing would come out of it. He was just fun to chat with. But still… I didn’t like it.
I told him my thoughts on it. And I made it clear that I’m not interested in a relationship of any sort if he’s living with his soon to be ex.
He said he understood and he told me that his goal was to be out within 2 months max. And he asked if we could just keep in touch to chat until then. He said talking to me gave him peace of mind. Hmm ok. I guess I can be a friend.
So we talked. I told him about what I did for fun and he would always comment on how he wished he was there too. He seemed to love the idea about being in a small town. Talked about staring at the stars with me. Cruising on the backroads with the windows down. That’s when I started to realize… I was his escape.
The fantasy talk about him being there with me became more frequent. I didn’t mind. It wasn’t like I was taking any of this seriously. I know he is an overworked attorney with no real social life. I’ll play the game.
That was until the one day he tells me that he told his therapist about me.
WHAT???
He told her that he’s falling for me. 🙄 And then continued to explain to me that he was and that I was everything he ever wanted in a woman.
Seriously dude… you never even met me.
I don’t have the heart to say anything to him, so I thanked him and told him I was flattered and reminded him of the entire situation.
I kind of backed away a bit. I don’t want him getting the wrong idea. I honestly wouldn’t mind being friends with him. But maybe I shouldn’t? Maybe I should cut it off completely?
We had a few days over the holiday that we didn’t talk. And I felt a bit relieved. I thought he needed to take a step back.
He messaged me after the holiday and it was right back to where we were. But now it seems like he wants to be more sexual in our talks. The other night he even sent me a picture of himself standing nude in a mirror. And I got it like… mid conversation… without any warning. And he always wants to talk about what he wants to do when he finally meets me.
I just don’t know.... I like talking to him. But I’m not feeling it. I guess I have to cut it off. I hate having conversations like that. Not looking forward to this at all........