SIL. in Plain ol' Stuff

This is fascinating.

The past almost 10? years I’ve known her, we just can’t seem to get along. I don’t know what her problem is. She isn’t just like this toward me. She is a bitch to DH’s whole family, too.

Once, she had a ridiculous tantrum. I’m not even going into it, but if I did, you’d definitely be dropping your jaw at how a (then) 25yo woman behaved.

Then there was the time she didn’t come over for a year. That was great, I will have to say. BIL finally grew a backbone and give her a choice to come or not. She also refused to eat what we were eating and would sit there and pout. She’d set up events early enough in the evening so they’d have to leave so she could get to them. They’d arrive late, of course, too. All on purpose to cause some weird commotion.

I decided to give up. I was too angry at her. I don’t forgive easily, so it really riled me up if someone mentioned her. We still all ask “is SHE coming?” with family events so we know what to prepare for.

So I don’t trust her. I refuse to look at her or talk to her. If she tried talking to me I’d just kinda brush it off and not engage. I don’t have time for bullshit and stupidity in my life, and I didn’t want to fight.

For some reason she was pretty good yesterday. I mean like… Really good. Where I actually kind of wanted to talk to her. And we did. When I invited her in the living room to continue our conversation over pizza.... I was like “whattttt…“

We bonded over our political views and of course the recent school shooting. We both had something to be angry about and we didn’t have to talk about anything personal.

She’s always made it clear recently that she’s in therapy (by the way, she is obsessed with talking about medication??? It has always been the strangest thing to me.), and I think that’s helping her a lot. Maybe the therapist has helped her pinpoint exactly what’s causing her to flip out in her life.

We’ve been starting to have more family get togethers with her when we say afterward, “Well, she behaved herself tonight… Yay!”

Now wouldn’t it be hilarious if she became my best friend one day.