No children till healthy in Misadventures of West Virginia Woman
- Feb. 2, 2018, 9:19 a.m.
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My fiance Talan has been having problems with his legs for over a year now. If he stands longer than 2 hours the blood pools in his legs causing nerve pains. I asked them to check his heart Talan said he is fine. He weighs 400 lbs must cause some strain to his heart. I fear he is going to die if he doesnt do something.
They ignored me when i requested sent him to a heart specialist to check his heart see if he has any blood clots in his legs. My dad had leg pains like Talan they found blood clots causing his pains.
I asked if they can refer him to a weight loss doctor. The doctor told Talan try Jenny Craig. The doctor told him try water aerobics for exercise because it is easier on his joints.
They want us to get compression stockings his his legs and better insoles. They didnt help him get referred to specialists or anything. They shoved him out the door.No pain pills no referrals no tests.Not even medicine for his high blood pressure.
He left before me i talked to my sister in laws friend Amanda M about how irritated i am. He wants us to have children. I will not. He is not going to die on me and leave me a single mother. I want him to lose weight for his health. Talan emotional eating and unable to exercise will be his downfall.
I weigh 200 pounds. I cant fuss at him much because i dont eat the healthiest. With me being a guard at a school i am always walking and on my feet for hours. I dont eat healthy because i always eat what is convenient. Both of us need to make life changes for the better.
How can i convince him to stop impulsive eating? How can i prevent him playing videogame all night and sleep all day. I am tired of picking up after him while he sleeps.
I want a baby but why should i get pregnant if taking care of him is like already caring for a child? No point if having a child if Talan is going to die young due to health related issues.
I need us both to improve our healths and lifestyles before i will have a kid. My future child deserves better than who i am now! I will not conceive a child until i am sure both me and Talan will live to see grandchildren.
I think our futures are good enough reason to be healthier and do better. I want a baby but i will not have one till i am sure we will live enough to see our grandchildren someday.
Ginger ⋅ February 02, 2018
Which of you does the grocery shopping? If you handle the shopping and only put healthy, fresh food in the house, maybe that could help with his impulsive eating.
I have the same struggle myself, and I'm about the same size as you. It's so hard to make the changes we know we need to make!
SilentEcho ⋅ February 02, 2018
First, YES you can fuss, he's twice your size, don't compare yourself. You may not eat healthy but you're not emotionally eating like he is. Not only do you not want to wind up a single mom but what kind of dad will he be if he's not able bodied enough to chase after children?
There's not much you can say or do, he has to want to change. If he isn't concerned with his health hes not going to change.
Beret ⋅ February 02, 2018
He has to want to make changes. You can't make or convince him. No one can. If his health is already affected then he is probably aware of how his weight is causing issues. He needs to take control. I wouldn't be having a child with these issues either. You will end up bearing the brunt of it all even if he is still alive.