Who am...I? in My Quest for a Quiet Soul

When listing all of the things that you are, where do you start? Do you start first with the things that you can do? Like the things that you can do With a pencil or paintbrush? Hope about you start With the fact that you’ve pushed forth minions into the world? What about the fact that you found someone FINALLY willing to put up with the shenanigans, to put it lightly, that your depression and anxiety and mood swings bring about? And he/she put a ring on it! What about mental health? Now that should definitely be right up front right? I mean, with it being such a negative stigma, we might as well just get it out of the way right away! A love me or leave me, don’t want to waste my breathe if you can’t handle me past that point kinda deal.
What really makes a person? And how can you not use labels when describing yourself? I feel like there’s a level of discretion involved as well. Plus, there’s no limit to what you can become.