A big deal in Stuff

I think I’m getting a cold, although I’m fighting it as much as possible. It’s not so much that I don’t have the time to take a few days to rest and let it pass, but I don’t have the desire. I don’t like not handling things that I need to handle at work. I don’t like not being as available to my kids. I don’t like not going to the gym regularly. So I fight and resist actually taking a day or two to rest, even though I know it would be the smart thing to do.

The kids want to go to Ogunquit this weekend. I’m not sure I’m going to feel up to it. They also want to take Megan. I asked why they wanted Megan to come along and Olsen’s response was, “It would be more fun to go to an LGBT city with her.”

I thought about several responses to that, but in the end didn’t say anything. I don’t really want to think of Megan as our LGBT friend more than we just think of her as a friend. She’s not someone who wears that on her sleeve at all. In fact, it’s something you’d never really guess about her and I think she likes it that way.

I don’t know if I’m really expressing myself correctly. I think it’s the cold.

Here’s what I mean. I have an old friend I’ve known since I was in my 20’s. Whenever he introduces himself to someone he mentions first that he’s gay. Like it’s the biggest and first way he wants to describe himself. And I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with that, if that’s how he chooses to present himself.

But with Megan, she makes no secret of the fact that she’s a lesbian if it organically comes up in conversation, but it’s not something she chooses to announce to the world at every opportunity.

So, in my opinion, if that’s how she wants to present herself, then that’s how we should see her. I think if I constantly think of her as “my lesbian friend,” I’m making more of a big deal about it than she does.

If any of that makes sense.