A Pregnant Pause in Scottish Mianderings

  • Jan. 10, 2017, 11:51 p.m.
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My niece, Cat, is expecting her first baby at the end of March. She's reached panic mode.

I well remember that time. Nikki was due at the end of February and I didn't really think about anything properly until I stopped work which was at Christmas the year before. I can recall visiting the neighbours next door on Hogmanay and being asked by several of the females present "Have you got all the stuff you need?" "Have you got your case packed?" "Have you decided on a pram/buggy?" etc. etc.

The answer to all of them was "Em ..... no." Then I went home and panicked.

Mind you it's interesting the sort of stuff which we had to make decisions on in those days. Certainly nothing like the stressfest facing new Mums nowadays with all the choices of wraps/milk/buggies/car seats/birth plans/swings/cots/monitors/changing tables & so on - it's mind boggling.

Anyway we have a family group on Facebook incorporating all the cousins, aunts and uncles so she started a conversation asking for any advice and cast offs. Everyone was chipping in with what they had that she was welcome to and the best equipment to get and how best to get through labour and everything and she was getting quite emotional with it all. We were all telling her not to worry and that everyone responded to their babies and labour differently and as long as she remembered to leave her dignity at the door she'd be okay :)

So in the spirit of this conversation whilst talking about labour, my niece, Marina, who is the most recent in the family to give birth, came out with this. (Stephen is her husband who was present at the birth).

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So funny.

^..^Kat January 11, 2017

:-) I think pooing is more common than most people realize.

Marg ^..^Kat ⋅ January 12, 2017

I agree!

NorthernTeacher January 11, 2017

Your poor niece...those worries aren't funny. She might not appreciate the humour but she will appreciate the caring.

Marg NorthernTeacher ⋅ January 12, 2017

Definitely - not far above that message she says "I love how our family can talk about anything and everything"!

ODSago January 11, 2017

There's a reason it is looked at as the major life challenge that it is for most women. Then there are women like me who gave birth a month early to our son in a hospital bed in the dark without anyone in attendance. I try never to mention that to anyone expecting a birth when people are sharing hopeful and funny and not funny things about how it is to give birth.

Marg ODSago ⋅ January 12, 2017

I was just saying that yesterday to a friend - that when you're pregnant with your first baby somehow everyone feels the need to give you their horror labour stories! :)

ODSago Marg ⋅ January 12, 2017

I so agree!!! I try not to do that. Just the moment when you hold that baby and all of the labor seems to diminish.

MageB January 11, 2017

Wonderful family.
They gave me an enema at the hospital. :)

Marg MageB ⋅ January 12, 2017

Joy upon joy. As if you're not going through enough as it is!

Four January 12, 2017

Testing again .. just wondered whether the 1973 custom of enemas is still followed these days. I now realise why they were so firm about it.

Marg Four ⋅ January 12, 2017

Not as far as I know - no sign of it when Nikki had her two anyway. It never really made sense to me because things in that department generally become loose when you're about to go into labour anyway don't they? I remember having a bit of diaorrhea just after my waters broke. As someone who is permanently constipated I was quite delighted!

Four Marg ⋅ January 12, 2017

Well those were the days when Control was the thing. I have birth flat on my back with my legs shackled.

Marg Four ⋅ January 13, 2017

Oh yes I remember that! It was the one thing I didn't want to do - pretty much the only thing - to be flat on my back with my legs in the stirrups - and that was how I ended up :(

Four Marg ⋅ January 13, 2017

I had read the ?Kitzinger? book about breathing, about walking around, etc and when I got there I found I was a captive of 18th century throwbacks.

I'm over that completely now, though.

Marg Four ⋅ January 13, 2017

I had the most lovely training midwife in the afternoon who got me out of my soaking wet nightie (sweat) and into a fresh one, opened the window and let me sit on a beanbag which moulded into my shape. She was just lovely and it was all Earth Motherish for a while (Boyd went away to the Chinese to get his lunch) but unfortunately she was only there for a few hours. She had a student with her and talked to her in low, quiet tones, explaining stuff to her. These were very calm, lovely hours. Of course that could also have had something to do with the Diamorphine she gave me at the same time ;)

edna million January 13, 2017

It's really nice your family is able to support her like that! Emotionally as well as with all that STUFF. When my brother's kids were small, I remember thinking I would have lost my mind trying to haul so much stuff around everywhere I went. I suppose you get used to it, though!

Kim was born in a VW Beetle-- her parents waited too late to head for the hospital!

Marg edna million ⋅ January 13, 2017

Wow really? Bet that's a story that's been told many times!

RoofOnFire January 13, 2017

Definitely an entry to smile at!

Marg RoofOnFire ⋅ January 13, 2017

:)

Lilith January 17, 2017

:) How lovely that a new little one is joining your family! I do love how you have a family page where you can talk about it all and ease her fears somewhat. I chuckled at everyone wanting to tell horrible labor stories to pregnant women....I had kind of forgotten about that....but remembered when it was mentioned...oh yeah! People did do that, didn't they?

Marg Lilith ⋅ January 21, 2017

I know it's nuts isn't it?? The very thing you DON'T want to hear but it's ALL you hear! :D

Sabrina-Belle January 18, 2017

How lovely that your niece has all of that family support.
One thing I remember about the birth of my first is that he was born at 7am which was shift change for the midwife. She handed him to my husband first as I needed stitches and I was a little resentful at first until I looked at them together, so beautiful. Then the midwife wished me luck and left the room and a complete stranger came in to bath the baby!

Marg Sabrina-Belle ⋅ January 21, 2017

It must be quite hard for the midwives as well - they must want to see a birth right through and it would be frustrating to have to leave just as things were starting to happen! An amazing job though.

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